|Subject:||Recovery from Mormonism|
|Date:||Sep 24 18:43 2002|
|Many trolls in times past, as well as other well intentioned
individuals have pointed out that at times, the RfM discussion
board seems to be nothing more than a place to rant and complain
about the Mormon Church, Mormon Doctrine, and Mormon culture.
Others have pointed out that a fair amount of patently false
accusations are made against the Mormon Church and its leaders.
And a few have pointed out where some have made faulty
arguments in an attempt to justify their lack of faith or belief in the
Mormon Church and its doctrine. And the accusatory question is
raised, "What does all this have to do with recovery?".
Having decided to take the question seriously, I have pondered
over the very idea of "Recovery" and what it means and implies. I
have arrived at a number of conclusions which I wish to share
Recovery means to reclaim, or to obtain that which was lost or
stolen, or to attain to a state of normallcy or a desired state of
being. In the case of alcoholism, recovery entails the reclamation
of control over one's life or as Alcoholics Anonymous puts it in their
12 steps program -- a restoration of sanity. In the case of recovery
from abuse, it is a reclamation of not only personal control, but
often of self-respect, personal dignity, physical, mental, and
spiritual health, and freedom from recurrent physical injury and
When a person has a malady which they desire to recover from, a
specific pattern or method is helpful in obtaining such a recovery.
Generally speaking, the procedure is as follows:
|Subject:||Recovery from Mormonism -- addendum|
|Date:||Sep 24 18:53|
|As to the patently false information and accusations which are
made on this board... I think it is important that such things are
corrected when they come up. Falacious arguments are less
effective in defending and justifying ones position against the
assaults of others. In other words, when patently false or
misleading anti-mormon information is posted, it SHOULD be
challenged and countered with accurate information.
There is more than ample evidence which demonstrates the
Mormon Church to be the fraud that it is. It is unneccessary and
counterproductive to make falacious arguments, misquote church
leaders, etc. in the promotion of "anti-mormonism" or recovery.
Let's keep it accurate and real, people. Fighting lies, fraud and
deceit is most effective when using truth, facts, and brazen
|Subject:||Recovery from Mormonism is a DO IT YOURSELF project!!!|
|Date:||Sep 24 19:06|
|It is about personal discovery and rewriting thousands of scripts
that ran automatically in our heads and realizing that we were OK all along.
NEVER forget that there are NO RULES about this process and NO time limit or restrictions. For some, it is a mouring process!For others there is an ongoing process dealing with heavy Mormon influence in our lives.
I never felt I was SICK so I never felt I needed any recovery! :-)Mormonism did not make me SICK! But it did educate me about human nature!
I have been angry! SURE. I was angry as a MORMON much more so than as a FORMER/POST Mormon! This time of my life is NOT about anger, it is about fun and enjoyment with NO outside restrictions from an overly zealous, outrageous,over the top bunch of religious wackos - as in the "penishood!"
I am an happy to be an independent person, and thinker and not feel any obligation to defer to anyone,especially NOT ecclesiastical leaders with their shorts in a knot!
The healthist way for me to deal with 35 yrs of Mormonism is to laugh as much as possible at how goofy it all is. And pat myself on the back for being smart enough to figure it out and not be damaged by their stupidity!
|Subject:||Re: Moving on|
|Date:||Sep 24 19:27|
|Great post. I want to learn from my experience in the church, to
approach life openly and to make the most of every day. Not to judge others by silly
standards like their underwear lines. To walk away a bigger, better, smarter person than I
was before. To never forget that no one has a monopoly on the truth.
I also want to not care about it anymore. I want them to stop calling me for every stupid excuse in the book. I've had more phone calls today than in the last two years combined. But, I guess they'll eventually get it.
This board helps to get the anger out. I still have alot of it, more than I even want to admit to myself. No one understands like those who have been there. But soon, I hope, the anger will be gone, and I can look back and take the good and leave the bad forever. Is that realistic? I welcome suggestions on how others have accomplished it. I have seen some of you on this board and admired you. And I have enjoyed your humor too, it helps alot!