This is a collection of topics from posts to the bulletin board at www.exmormon.org which give a wide and extensive overview of life as a Mormon and life after Mormonism. 

  Organized by Topics  Updated  Nov 24, 2011      Most Recent at the bottom of each section.                  See also: Organized by date.

Life as a Mormon      Stories by ex-Mormons and currently active Mormons about life as a Mormon.

Life after Mormonism - Leaving Mormonism  Discussions on transitioning from belief to a post-Mormon life.

Temple  Mormon Temple experiences and garments

Missionary   Mormon missionary experiences.

Doctrine   Discussions on Mormon doctrine and Mormon history

General Authorities  Mormon church leaders past and present

Joseph Smith  1st Mormon Prophet

Book of Mormon

Active but non-Believing

Humor

Other

Non-Mormons


Life as a Mormon                     back to top

2.  Faked Priesthood Blessings?

18. Anxiety in Mormonism   

20. Legalism and Guilt

49. Help, I am in Shock

47. The Final Straw  

60. Mormon Urban Legends

61. Mormons say, "I know"  

63. Were you active Mormons? 

65. Mormon Food 

69. Unconditional Love 

71. Testimony Meetings

72. Wedding Invitations + Receptions

78. Mormon 30+ Years

81. Mormons and Boundaries

82. Busted at the Market  

83. Loving Church more than Kids 

87. Pay Up you Lowly Peasants

90. Grandson of the Prophet

91. Garment 'Police' 

92. Exploitation of Older Mormons

98. Caste System 

104 Loss of Individual Identity

105 Bishop Dad and Boy Scouts

107 Fast and Testimony Meeting

109 Women - 2nd Class Members

110 Lost without the Gospel

122  Why do they keep holding on?

123 Mormon Leaders define emotions

125 California Mormons 

129 Negative Impact on Children

131 Mormons don't Wear Crosses

133 The Sacred Flow Chart 

134 Sabbath - A day of Rest for Women?

136 Tithing - 10% of Gross?

137 Seminary  Have a Large Family 

143 Feeling Guilty Visiting Here (exmormon.org) 

147 Mormon Church and Free Speech

161  Sunday's Youth Message

156 Girls Camp "Faith Promoting" Activity 

167  Funny Testimony Meetings

174   Silly or Annoying Church Callings

201  Cut Back on Leisure Time!

202  Mormon Grandparents

204  Satan Stories

207  Obsession with Numbers

210  Where are the Michelangelo's? 

218  Life in Polygamy - 2003

219  Loss of Passion

220  Mormon Ignorance of Judaism

223  Confessing to the Bishop

225  Ridiculed at Sacrament Meeting

226  A Bishop's Blessing

228  Fanatical Things We Did

229  Embarrassing Testimonies

231  Mormon Myths on the Fly

235  Fear of Losing a Testimony

236  Manipulative Mormon Women

237 .General Authority Visit to the Stake. 

247  Mormons - Guilt and Shame

249  Mormon Funerals

254  Sacrament Prayer Repeated 

260  Father-in-law:  Me in 20 Years?

270 Forever Family® versus Reality

271  Never Happy as a Mormon

273 Was Sunday a Day of Rest?

277  Life Inside General Conference 

278  High School Seminary    

280  Remember Evils of Card Playing?

281  Drinking Coca-Cola is a Sin?

283  'Court of Love' - Experiences 

284 Amazing Letter in The Ensign

286 What is Mormon Culture?

290 Life is Better in Zion

296 A Mormon Spouse Writes

300 Ward Boundaries

307 Mormons Feel Superior to Others

311 Limiting Family Size

313 Tithing Never Brought My Family Blessings

316 Breaking the Will of Members

318 Stories of former Church Custodians

319 A Mormon Writes: "My Wife Wants to Leave the Church"

324 Selling Our One Year Supply of Food

326 Bishops Asking Sexual Questions

332 March 2004 Ensign on Tithing

334 A Mormon Father's, who is a Bishop, Cruelty

338  A Personal Look at Polygamy

347 Central Control and Ward Budgets

349 No Testimony?  What is Wrong with You?

350 Types of Mormon Testimonies

357 Changing History to Bolster Faith

356 Utah Leads the Nation in Bankruptcies

355 Mormons' Lives are Micro-Managed

367 Breaking Down Personal Boundaries

369 Mormon Bishops are Untrained

383 Never Turn Down a Church Calling

403 Jesus Needs $1 Billion for a Shopping Mall (now $3.0 billion)

422 Rape in Utah above National Average - Mormonism connection

439 Mormon Belief Interferes with Rational Decision Making

443 The Grape Juice Myth

456 Mormons Unaware Joseph Smith Used a Stone in a Hat

464 Mormonism is an All or Nothing Religion

461 How Stake Presidents and Bishops are Called

493.  Mormon Mother Wishes Her Son had Died Instead of Leaving the Church 486.  Women who Know - Relief Society President Speaks at General Conference
485.  Mormon Church Keeps its Members in Isolation 484.  Is Relief Society Relevant? Women Role Models?
499.  Utah now Leads the United States in Depression 521.  More on Utah Leads the Nation in Depression
536.  Experiences on Being Single in the Mormon Church 547.  A Visit to Sacrament Meeting after Resigning 5 Yrs Ago
543.  Striving for Perfection 551  Church's method of determining truth: prayer.
558.  Concise Summary of Mormon Life - Male Perspective 561.  An Inactive Mormon Mother Accosted by the Bishopric
562.  Logical Fallacies Commonly Employed by Mormons 574.  Bishop Attempts to give a Lame Calling to Reactivate a Member
578.  Fear of Phone Calls after being a Mormon Leader 589.  Can a Shy Person Succeed as a Mormon?
593.  Tales of Mormon Ward Clerks 596.  Is the Goal of Becoming a God Selfish?
599.  Mormontimes (2010):  Pay No Attention to the Man Behind the Curtain 600.  Mormontimes (2010): Declining Baptisms - not a Problem
602.  Pay Your Tithing or No Priesthood for You - Ensign Feb. 2010 604.  Mormonism Creates Severe Hardship for Many Members
608.  We Mormons are not Weird and We're not Doing Weird Things 612.  Ward Council Meetings are Filled with Gossip
609.  Mormons Don't Know Why Joseph Smith was in Jail 618.  A Family Church?  Sons and Daughters of Bishops Speak Out
627.  How do Molly Mormons Cope with All the Kids? 633.  Do Shy People Have a Place in the Mormon Church?
634. Jesus Wants Me to be a Janitor for a Multi-Billion Dollar Corporation 647. Mormon Apostle Article on Tithing - June 2011 Ensign
648. So When are You Getting Pregnant Again?  

               


Life after Mormonism - Leaving Mormonism               back to top

12. Leaving the Fold

14. I had more 'friends' when LDS

17. Ex-Mormons are different?

21. Myths of ex-Mormonism?

30. Self Discovery

35. The Steps to Recovery

37. Purpose of Life

45. A Melancholy Longing

46. Children of Ex-Mormons

48. Mormon Recovery Movie List 

52. Why I Visit Here 

55. I am not alone

57. Sunstone looks at Exmormon.org 

64. A Mighty Change of Heart

70. It is not Easy

73. How did you find exmormon.org?

75. Turbulence - Exmo Life

88. Recovery from Mormonism

97. The Final Straw II

101 Helped my Husband to See

102 Proud of my Husband

108 Cost of Leaving Mormonism

112 Can't Keep Just One Foot In

113 Raising Kids without Mormonism

114 Tithing in a Mixed Marriage

117 Who's not leaving whom alone?

118 A Kinder, Gentler Apostasy

119 Disappointing those I Love

124 Discarding Mormon Scripts  

128 What Church Now?

144  BIC, RM, and Ready to Bail Out 

145  Why I am Now a Better Mother 

146  Mary Ann Benson's Story 

 

149  Finding Truth Behind the Symbols

150  Unable to Talk to My Own Children

160  Half in, Half Out and Scared

163  Lost Respect for My Mormon Parents

166  Any Still Attending Church?

168   Spouse is Still a Mormon

171   Why So Much Anger?

172  Do You Ever Wish to Go Back?

176  I Am an Agnostic but...

182  "Something Missing from Your Eyes" 

184  Tired of Being Egocentric 

186  Mother of All Battering Rams

188  Sometimes I Wish I Could Go Home

190  Gained Confidence

192  Just Discovered the Truth

194 An Aversion to White Shirts

195  Formal Resignation Necessary? 

212  What Controls an Ex-Mormon?

213  Ruining My "Eternal Family"

217  Resign - Not Name Removal 

246  Slipping Toward Being Agnostic.

251  Tolerance Towards Mormons? 

256  Age 34 Female and Afraid

258  Why Do you Post Here?

263  Life is Better after Mormonism 

272  Internet and Leaving Mormonism 

279  Ex-Mormons: Don't Murder Santa

295  Mormon Bashing

302 Divorce due to Spouse's Unbelief

303 Shunned by the Mormon Community

305 Resigning Membership & Temple Sealings

308 I Feel I am More of an Adult Now

310 Judgmental Visiting Teachers

312 Intellectual vs Personal Turning Points

314 Ensign Feb 04: "Children Who Stray"

325 Why Does it Hurt So Much to Leave?

335 Finally Resigned - Exit Letter & Story

336 Is This Site of the Devil?

345 BYU Prof. Resigns - Letter from His Brother

416 How Has Leaving Mormonism Changed You Emotionally?

418 Steve Benson: "Good-bye to God": My public testament to leaving Mormonism...

421 Benson: efforts by the Benson family to silence their "disloyal" own

423 Helping a Spouse Discover the Truth on Mormonism

434 An Australian writes about life after Mormonism

438 Reflections on RfM by Daniel Peterson and Comments by Bob McCue

452 Courage to Set Boundaries – A Woman’s Perspective

448 Marital Conflict and Post Mormon Life

470 “Post Mormon” Parallels; Emotional Knowing and the Evolution of Religious Organisms

467 People Like Us were Never Expected to Leave Mormonism

498.  Why are Mormons so afraid of discussing the issues?

497.  The Stages of Post-Mormonism and Brain Re-formatting 496.  Uncomfortable Removing Garments
494.  Are Ex-Mormons Bitter? 495.  Movies for Ex-Mormons to Watch
489.  Member of the Bishopric Describes his Last Day of Attending Church 532. Mormons Shun Those who Leave the Church - How to Deal with the Shunning
546.  A Nice Exit Letter given to the local Bishop 549  Telling the Bishop You No Longer Believe
560.  Two Examples of How Mormons Treat Family Members who Leave the Faith 571.  The Worst YW/YM Lessons
575.  Mormons Expect Us (Ex-Mormons) to Fail 574.  A Lame Attempt to Reactivate a non-Believer
584.  Mormon Parents View Me as a "Wayward Child" 611.  FAIR - Mormon Apologetics Group Theory on Why People are Leaving Mormonism
617.  Are You Considered a Dangerous Person in Your Mormon Family? 620.  The Hypoxia of Mormonism - A Great Analogy on Exiting the Mormon Church
626.  I Have Tried to be Nice to the Home Teachers, but it's Not Working 641. Former Bishop and 45 Year Member Writes Why He left Mormonism
642. The Wife of a Former Bishop (#641) Writes Why She Left the Mormon Church  

                       


Temple                    back to top

13. Non-Mormon and Garments

15. Temple Divorces

19. Feel Ugly in Temple Clothing?

32. The Changing Temple

33. First Time to the Temple

42. Washing and Anointings

 44. Stopped wearing garments

66. Secret or Sacred?

127 Temple Marriage Ceremony

155  New Names Given in the Temple

165  Not allowed to the Temple Wedding

169  Can Temple Ordinances be Changed?

234  Changing Rules? Temple Marriages

238  She Can't Stand The Temple 

243  Temple Hype Versus Reality 

285  First Time to Temple II

288. Protestant Minister Pre-1990 Endowment

293 Excluded from Children's  Wedding

301 Speaking Publicly about the Temple

306 Temples are Running out of Names

331 The Temple Endowment not Changed per Apologist

339 Temple Marriage vs. Traditional

359 Canceling a Temple Sealing

366 Naked Touching in the Temple?

371 Young Women Dress up in Mother's Temple Wedding Gown

382 Excluded from Children's Mormon Temple Wedding II

474.  My Mother Denies Making Motions of Slitting her Throat in the Temple Prior to 1990

475.  My Father had to Pay $4000 to the Church to Attend My Wedding

478.  Mormon Doctrine:  Women Must Wear Bras over Garments?

 503.   A non-Mormon Mother unable to attend her daughter's temple wedding

507.  Women Write about their Temple Weddings 523.  Was the Temple a Turning Point in Your Believing in Mormonism?
533.  Video on the Mormon Temple Rituals 514.  Summary of the Mormon Temple
550  Benson:  Ground Zero in My Unbelief in Mormonism - the Temple 564.  Did the temple ceremony help you leave the Mormon church?
570.  The Making of the Mormon Temple Film 572.  Mormon Temple Ceremony and HBO Big Love Comments
573.  A non-Mormon Comments on a non-Temple Wedding 580.  Did You Really Believe You Needed the Secret Handshakes?
607.  Death Penalties in the pre-1990 Temple Ceremonies are Denied by Older Mormons 643. The Darkness of the Old Temple Ceremonies (prior to the 1990 changes)
 

Missionary       back to top

3. Mormon Missions - regrets?      

29. Missionaries Were Here 

39. Missionary and Death of a Parent 

50. Missionaries Use Manipulation 

74. Missionary Companions

76. Crazy Mission Rules 

85. Regrets of LDS Mission II 

 94. New Missionary Standards

99. Missionary Farewells 

120 Missions Promote Lying 

116 Met with Missionaries

142 Regrets Mormon Mission III

151  Saying  'No' to Mormon Missionaries 

154  European Mission Experiences

181  1st Presidency on Missionary Work

205  Missions - Future Apostasy 

209  Control at the MTC 

214  Breaking Mission Rules 

241  Suicides after a Mission 

244  Some Mission Rules 

257  Mormon Grandparents are Stalkers

289 Not Allowed to Serve a Mission

298 Mormon Malignancy Seen in Missions

299 "Get the Fire" PBS Film - Missionaries

309 Happy that Your Mission was Finally Over?

328 Mormon Parents Rat on Missionary Son

361 Missionaries Pressured to Marry Soon after Missions

364 Breakdown of a Mormon Missionary in Japan

404 Missionary Program and Immigration Fraud

395 More Mormon Missionary Abuse

425 More on Mormon Missionary Abuse II

431 More on Mormon Missionary Abuse III

454 Depression and Mormon Missions

477.  A Missionary's Food Budget is Reduced to $130/mo

522.  Nightmares of Being Called to a Second Mission 555.  Japan Mission under President Groberg  1979-1982
579.  Parents Can No Longer Enter the MTC 582.  Missionaries Prey on the Vulnerable in Hospitals
585.  Church Using Missionaries as Telemarketers in the MTC 588.  Mormon Missionaries Often Experience Despicable Living Conditions
592.  More Japanese Mission Experiences 594.  Do Not Speak Unfavorably about Your Mission Experiences
616.  Elizabeth Smart Playing the Harp in the Streets of Paris  

 


General Authorities       back to top

5. Boyd K. Packer 

 22. Hyrum Smith's Blessings

100 Ballard, Dyer and Missionaries

153  Ballard, "I Am an Expert on Women"

159  Gnawing Doubts & GAs

164  Have the Apostles Seen Christ? 

183  Paul H. Dunn and Orrin Hatch

401  Apostle Oaks and the Language of Prayer

248  Alvin & Samuel Smiths' Deaths

259  Why Were GAs Duped?

268  Bruce R. McConkie: E. England 

275   Do Mormon Prophets Really Know?

297 Bruce R. McConkie as a Father

314  Ezra Taft Benson Plagiarized CS Lewis

322 Mark Hofmann's Forgeries

329 Can Mormon Leaders Tell the Truth?

346 Apostle Dallin Oaks and Truth

354 Hinckley to NYC: "You are Babylon"

358 Hinckley: "Baptisms to Double"

363 Mormon Church and Prostitution 1885-1941

407 Benson - What do Mormon Leaders Really Know?

408 The Death of Parley P. Pratt

417 General Authority Gleefully Humiliates Sincere Members

419 Looking Inside the Mind of Ezra Taft Benson Through His Personal Correspondence

420 Benson: Post-Manifesto Polygamy - Pathetic Response of Two Mormon Apostles to Quinn’s Expose’

424 Benson:  Mormon Handcarts 1800's and the cruelty of BY

415 Benson: Sonia Johnson's Speech "Patriarchal Panic..."

442 Dallin Oaks' Defense of Joseph Smith Destroying the Nauvoo Expositor

463 Who Really Runs the Mormon Church?

460 Robert Hales - Mormon Apostle of God

471.  As cucumbers now are, pickles once were; as pickles now are, cucumbers may become.

 491.  The Hofman Affair. Unveiling the Mind of Upper Echelon Mormon Leadership

481.  Steve Benson: The Special Testimonies of General Authorities 587.  Mormon Apostle Holland Misleads Members with his Book of Mormon Prop
610.  Amelia's Palace - The Mansion built for Brigham Young's Favorite Wife 619. Polygamy: She was 15…he was 42. Why didn’t I See It?
622.  George P. Lee - First (and only) 'Lamanite' General Authority 632.  Boyd K. Packer Changes His Conference Talk after Protests
635.  Mormon Apostle Eyring Claims he had been Poor.  How Cute.  

 


Doctrine                     back to top

1. The Evils of Monogamy

8. Men on Moon

10. Denial of Polygamy

34. Origin of Celestial Kingdom

25. Origin of 3 Degrees of Glory

36. Mormon History of Sex

38. Christ's Body

54. Book of Abraham

68. Blacks and Atonement

77. This Wicked World

93. More on 1st Vision

103 Irrational Dogma and Doctrine

121 Great and Abominable Church

132 Recently Learned about Adam-God 

135 Great Moments in Church History

138 The 116 Lost Pages 

  140 Was God Once a Man or Not?

157  Endowed Women have the Priesthood

162  Mormon Statements on Christianity

173   BYU and Organic Evolution

177   God's Love is Conditional

178  Milk Before Meat

180  You are the Problem, Not the Church

193  McConkie's Mormon Doctrine

196  McConkie and Evolution 

198  Kimball and Evolution

203 Adam and Eve as Literal History 

206  Divorce and Holland's Talk

208  Great Moments in Mormon History pII

211  Ballard 2003 and The Decline

215  Mormon Miracle of Angels

216  Child Brides - Polygamy

222  FARMS - Mormon Apologetics

227  Tentacles of Mormon Sealings

233  25 Yrs Ago - Blacks & Priesthood

239  Choosing the Next Mormon Prophet

245  Don't Wear Two Earrings

255  LDS Interpret Word of Wisdom 

 

265  Hill Cumorah

274  Pay Tithing - Ignore Other Obligations

276  Share Wife with Mormon Prophet

282  Women are Not Really Members 

80. Better dead than unbelieving 

317 Early Mormons Were Unaware of the First Vision

321 Response to a Mormon Eavesdropper - Lamanites etc

327 Mormon Church's Contempt of the Catholic Church

340 What is a Mormon Fundamentalist?

372 Shaking Hands with Spirits

373 Tithing Settlement

437 What Happened to Heavenly Mother?

450 Is the Mormon Church a Loyalty Cult?

492.  Lamanites are Not the Principal Ancestors of American Indians 488.  9 Year Old Girl Asks Why Can't She have the Priesthood
480.  Mormon Missionary Teaching in Brazil Blacks and the Priesthood - 1970  

                                                                   


Joseph Smith                 back to top

7. Smith's Amazing Finds

9. Merry Smithmas

23. Why wasn't Emma Destroyed?

26. Smith's Polygamy

31. Smith and Epilepsy

56. Baurak Ale

199  Joseph Smith's Wives

253  Joseph Smith, Menses, Pedophilia

262  Share Your Wife with J. Smith?

266  Apostle: "Smith used a Seer Stone"

187  Angels Coerced Smith into Sex?

320 Why Did Smith Die Willingly?

351 Joseph Smith and Helen Kimball age 14

432 Smith's Doctrine of Sex for Exaltation

451 Judging Joseph Smith by Today's Standards

628.  The False [LDS] Joseph Smith and the Real [Historical Reality] Joseph Smith

646. Joseph Smith and Nancy Rigdon age 19  

       


Book of Mormon                   back to top

11. Horses - Book of Mormon

27. A Mormon Letter to FARMS 

28. Reformed Egyptian 

53. Cureloms

51. Horses, FARMS and BofM

86. BofM a Missionary Tool?

67. Lamanites and DNA

111 Dallin H. Oaks and the BofM   (see also 537 in this listing)

175  BofM - Any Value Left to Ex-Mormons?

323 How Boring is the Book of Mormon?

330 Captain Kidd, Joseph Smith and Moroni, Camora Island

333 Is FARMS Credible?

378 Rigdon and the Origin of the Book of Mormon

388 What is Limited Geography Theory?

389 Joseph Smith as Sole Author?

391 Mormon Apologetics and DNA

399 Sorenson, Smelting, Tapirs and Misleading Documentation

428 Lindsay and Mormon Apologetics

438 Reflections on RfM by Daniel Peterson and Comments by Bob McCue

440 LA Times Article - DNA and the Book of Mormon

537.  Dallin Oaks on the Book of Mormon - A Mormon Apostle 538.  What was the Urim and Thummim?
534.  Book of Mormon Apologetics  recommended reading 544.  Vern Holly Maps Shows Book of Mormon Names are of Recent Origin
567.  Mormon Histronics 568. Sorenson Molecular Genealogy Foundation - Book of Mormon and DNA
601.  Book of Mormon and Recent DNA Studies - 2010 406 Southerton - DNA and the Book of Mormon
603.  Moroni's Promise?  It Does Not Really Mean what It Says - Ensign Feb. 2010 606.  Book of Mormon Apologist - John L. Sorenson
649. Absence of Evidence - Regarding the Book of Mormon  

Active but non-Believing               back to top

 4. I Feel Trapped

6. Harm in Being LDS?

240  Told Son He Does Not Believe

252  Non-Believer Baptizing His Son

291 Mother's Role in Child's Baptism

292  Is Wife Still considered a Tithe payer if I don't pay?

304 How Long Can One be a Hypocrite Pretending to Believe?

 

 


                  

Humor  40. Ex-Mormon Realtor In Utah  96. Temple Phrases    287. Funny Church Stories


Other                    back to top

41. Mormon Implosion Hypothesis 

58. Enemies of the Church

62. An Appeal to Faith

79. A Lurker Speaks

84. Let my Children be Mormons?

89. A Recent Convert 

106 Attended Sacrament Meeting

126 Leaving Bountiful - Polygamy Film

152  Salt Lake City Main Street Plaza

158  The Fastest Growing Church?

170  Mormons Pestering My 8 Year Old 

179  A Christian Nation? 

 191  Mormon Mailbag

197 Mormon Women and Prozac

200 A Mormon Apologist

224  Meeting with Stake President

230  For Young Mormon Women 

232  Mormon Church Crumbling? 

250  Ricks College Professor Responds

267 Coping with Death without Belief

376 Tactics of Mormon Apologists

379 Improving the Quality of Converts

473.  Busting the Handcart Myth

472.  Everything Mormons and Ex-Mormons Need to Know about the Mountain Meadows Massacre

468 The Prophet Hinckley - "Wives are Men’s most valuable possessions"

 623.  More Information on the Mormon Hand Cart Myth

629.  The Strange New Mormon Commercials - "Look at how Normal We Are!" 650. Mormon Ad Campaign Does not Seem to be Working

Non-Mormons                      back to top

43. On the Verge of Baptism

59. A non-Mormon reads the D&C

130 Wife is a Mormon

141 My Boyfriend is a Mormon

221  Visiting a Mormon Service

294 Help! Wife Wants to be a Mormon

542.  Mormons Took My Child to Church w/o Permission 640 Living in Utah as a non-Mormon with Young Children
644. Innocently Attended a Mormon Church Service and was Stalked Incessantly Afterwards  

        


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