Posted by:
Joy
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Date: January 13, 2014 03:16AM
Religion should not be an issue in a relationship. Probably, politics shouldn't be an issue, either.
Why not seek out people who have the same interests as you. I mean, positive, fun interests, and not horrible memories and complaints. Salt Lake City has a movie club--I don't know the name, but they are associated with the Tower, Broadway, and Brewvies theaters. No, not just independent and foreign films--all movies.
There's a group of singles that meets in the Dan's parking lot to go hiking and bicycling. Petsmart has dog-walking groups. Salt Lake has a gourmet club, that divides into smaller groups for dinners. You can meet singles standing in line at the post office on April 15, shopping on Christmas Eve, helping at the soup kitchen on Thanksgiving. You can meet single (non-Mormon) parents at McDonald's on Sunday mornings. Start a good conversation with the person next to you on the chairlift or the ski bus. Hang out in Park City. Take night classes. All these have worked for me.
Don't limit yourself to only potential partners, only those of the opposite sex, only your age group, only attractive people. At a party, I noticed a not-very-well-dressed lady sitting by herself, looking very sad. Everyone was ignoring her. I sat by her and tried to cheer her up, and she had some very interesting things to say. She introduced me to her brother, and he and I dated for four years. He was featured as one of "Utah's most eligible bachelors" in a magazine, and while we were dating, women tried all kinds of tricks to get to meet him--with no success--and he thought it was funny. They would invite him on dates, bring him dinners, offer to do his laundry and clean his house. Women even showed up at his father's and his mother's funerals, which they read about in the newspaper! Utah women are very aggressive, so the best way is to not compete, but be yourself and have fun. My divorce-attorney cousin says, "It's a crapshoot."