I'm just wondering because I am still 'involved' with the Church but I'm on the journey out. The last thing I would need is 'outing' at a time not of my choosing.

Please don't give specifics as that would defeat the question of the thread.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/13/2011 05:36AM by Stumbling.

Over time, I've revealed enough about myself that some people might be able to figure out who I am. But I never put too much into any one post. YMMV.

How Big Brother-y is the Morg? I don't give a damn if they try and track me down, but I'd hate to get the gf in trouble. Not that I've posted anything that could identify me. I'm just wondering if I should be really careful about that. Also, Ron knows who I am on facebook, so I guess I better hope there's never a shakedown...

My kids spyed and found me here, who woulda thought? So, yeah, be careful, change some of your true self description, or life story, if you really do not want to be found here.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/13/2011 09:28AM by think4u.

I use as little detail as possible.

It's kinda like drinking beer. If you care who knows, you buy your six pack two towns over and drink it behind the garage, at night, out of a glass. If you don't care, you drink it on the front porch, out of the can with a Golden Nugget Casino coozie, wearing a wife-beater t-shirt and smoking a cigar.

Just sayin'...

Ron

Well said! ...Damn, I'm kinda craving a cigar now..

You just described my BF, sans wife-beater. I'm the one that wears those!

My true identity has been figured out by at least one person and I thought I was being careful about irl info. Mormonism really is a small universe so be careful.

... then you are still under the cult's influence and control.

When it looks like it, acts like it and smells like it, you call it what it is. Once you determine its true identity - in this case a false and misleading religious cult - you treat it accordingly.

Fear fuels this particular monster.

No person is worth the price of having to sacrifice your personal happiness.

Timothy

If you're in and don't want repercussions, I'd be VERY careful about not revealing real life information.

Members of this board have had unwelcome attention brought on them by self righteous assholes in the Morg before and it would be reasonable to assume the same can be done to you. It is very obvious that the Morg monitors this board. (Or at least that more than a few of its most unsavory adherents do. Or both.)



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/13/2011 10:21AM by Rebeckah.

The internet is a big place and anything you post could be out there permanently.

You should be careful about what information you put out there, and realize that it could fall into the hands of potential employers or family members, who might take offense if they are Mormon. Whether or not that changes what you post probably depends upon how much influence these people have in your life.

I think it's smart that you don't use your real name. These days, people google potential employees, etc. There's just no reason to reveal your most personal stuff to anyone who looks you up.

You need to need to be extremely careful..if you have family looking for you on boards like this...anything you post is seen by all sorts of people...good and not so good..social networking can be hazardous to your life

stormy

No, it's not necessarily a good thing to do, but self-defense requires what it requires.

as Tim says....
who gives a shit!! :)

Yes you do.
That is, unless you do not need to worry about ramifications on the home front or being called on the carpet by church authorities.

Some people on this board have also been harrassed off line by people who took issue with them online.

Myself, I don't give my name, the town I grew up in or live in today, how many kids I actually have, nor do I give any real-life names of anyone I know personally, or who attend my ward/stake and I use a throw-away email addy that is only used for this board.

Other than that, I'm pretty honest about what I post here...

I do not recognize the current Bishop as an authority of any kind having known him for some years, but he does still have the church sanction to make our lives miserable if he ever wants to...at least until we formally resign.

I'd really like to have someone, friend or foe, figure out my IRL identity. It'd be no threat.

There are bound to be like minded "quasi" mormons in Denton, TX and I'd enjoy contact with them. Problem is you just can't see apostasy on folks' faces.

Matter of fact, I've started wearing a yellow smiley face on my right lapel (as suggested in a thread here several weeks ago) to identify myself as a not-so-closet apostate.

Not if you change your logon ever so often. Then there's no continuity. And never use a logon you use elsewhere.

Anagrammy

You have to worry about what others might post as well. When you think about it anyone can post anything about you or pretend to be you and post things anywhere on the net. Never post a photo or use your real name on the net except at secure sites and that can still be risky. Uploading a photo to a site is simple enough.

Personal info can be used to post untrue info about you and there's not much you can do about it. Photos can be posted to not so savory sites. Someone could even start a blog using your name and have you appear to be writing all kinds of crazy stuff.

A person's reputation can be ruined. Someone 'googled' my name and found a person with the same name. Fortunately the jerk lived far away from me.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/13/2011 12:01PM by verdacht.

There are people (that could include family members) who will make things up about you. There are people who will say things about you to others that are only half truths. There are people who will spread gossip (whether or not it is true) about you. You can't control any of it.

What you can do is live your life, a life that you are proud to live...whatever that may be. Then when the lies and half truths are told, it is those who are true friends that will still be there with you. Those who don't make assumptions about people but know there are two sides or that information can be misrepresented, will understand.

Tell the rest of the folks, the condescending, ignorant, arrogant, prideful people to f*** off or if you are at all inclined, you might check to see if there's a spark of thinking running through the gears of their brain and share what you do know. Maybe you'll get the engine running.....

Mormon lurkers, plants, monitors, and a few posters went ballistic calling me paranoid, crazy, tin foil hat extremist and much worse. They said the morg has better things to do with their time and resources.

Many times it's become clear that they do watch this board, collect info on individuals, retaliate when they can, and sometimes implant their own take on what's posted here to nudge the conversation favorably toward mormon pr goals.

They HATE that we now ofter work to establish boundaries with TBMs.

They don't like it that their worse secrets are being exposed worldwide for all to see and openly discuss.

The ugliest side of this TBM looky-loo activity is when they go after real people in their homes. Now they're actually going after individual little children on merry-go-rounds and kindergarten classes.

They are shameless! Totally devoid of human compassion! Mean, nasty, and as cultish as they come. No decent normal mainstream church would do such awful deeds. I feel slimy for ever having been associated with the mormon so-called church.

In truth, the cult has nothing better to do!

Its not like the leaders actually talk to god or anything.

Divide and conquer. That's what family is all about!

Timothy

...several years.

I don't know if anyone locally knows I post on here or not. I have a calling that does not involved teaching or testimony. I don't pay tithes (tho TBM wife does). I don't have a TR.

Bottom line, if they found out I was here and didn't like it, perhaps I would be released from my calling. Otherwise I can't see how it would make a difference.

For me, I actually want to be found out. It's taken a few years for me to get over the guilt programming but I'm finally there. I share more than enough information for people to recognize me if they are looking.

It isn't that I'm looking for a fight with my neighbors. In fact I'd rather be nice and neighborly. What I'd really love to find is a few more people who get it. I'd love to have friends for my wife and I to hang with. You know, people who aren't wearing the plastic Mormon Mask 24/7 and don't worry about filtering all conversations etc.

Mormons don't know what to do when you stand up against them. They are given a script to use and when that doesn't work they back off.
Start standing up for yourself. When more people start standing up for themselves others may start finding courage to do the same.

given a world, in recent years, where some folks love to steal personal Identifying Information (PII) for unscruptulous purposes.

Someone could easily figure out who I was if they knew me. Not too worried about it though.