Posted by:
Rod
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Date: April 15, 2011 08:23AM
often what a man observes in a spouses behavior is not the underlying problem. A few thoughts:
1) Make sure you are meeting her needs...especially her emotional needs. Are you taking her out often? Do you compliment her everyday? Are you showing ample and copious amounts of affection for her. Dude, I mean, most women need, desire, and want their man to be very affectionate. If your lacking here - you need to start. On a daily basis, you need to be rubbing her back, massaging her feet, caressing her, kissing her, putting your arm around her, treating her like a queen, standing when she comes in the room, opening the door for her, complimenting her. Make her feel like she is number one, and that you are there to make her life as wonderful and complete in every possible way. She must believe and know that you love her more than life itself - everyday. Dude, its the little things that count.
Sometimes when a woman acts in the way you've described, their emotional needs are not being met, and it comes out in other ways (i.e. frustration outbursts toward you that don't make sense). Chances are, if you filling her emotional bank/bucket (whatever you want to call it) everyday, she'll not be acting the way she is. Just guessing, because that's usually the case. Hang in there Matt. You're not alone dude.
2) If number one doesn't work, I think you should start communicating with her about her behavior. In a very gentle and loving way, look for quiet times to discuss her behavior. Begin by reiterating how much you love her, and how much you want to have the best relationship possible with her. Don't argue, but communicate your feelings in a constructive adult-like mature manner. Learn to negotiate and comprimise with her. Marriage really is about negotiation in many respects.