Posted by:
robertb
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Date: November 27, 2011 02:02PM
You are dealing with a problem for which there is a good rate of success. You may also get success from some self-help. You might take a look at something called Sensate Focus. It is a method of dealing with sexual anxiety that consists of starting with nonsexual touching and gradually moving to sex while dealing with anxiety and thoughts that arise along the way. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which you can learn and do for yourself, also has been shown to be helpful for sexual problems. The San Francisco Sex Information hotline and website is another good resource.(I once dated a woman who worked for them. Conversations with her were wonderful.) Part of being comfortable about sex is becoming more educated about it--letting yourself explore your sexuality, something that doesn't happen in Mormonism.
http://test.sfsi.org/P.S. A sex therapist is not the same as a sex addiction therapist. So look for someone trained as a *sex therapist* if you go that route. Interview him or her and see if they work in a direction that will help you.
Good luck!
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 11/27/2011 02:04PM by robertb.