Posted by:
Human
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Date: September 21, 2012 02:13AM
Hi roxy & fubecona,
One thing about Mormonism is that it is no place for introverts. Western culture has long championed extroversion over introversion, but Mormonism takes it to another level. There seems to be little room for the introvert in Mormon culture.
Rather than agonize about a lack of friends, perhaps it might be helpful to first learn more about being an introvert and come to accept it.
I spent my entire life until just recently loathing my introversion and hiding it very well from others. Not many even know of my introversion, even my wife and kids don't believe that I'm shy! I was that good at 'faking it'. But my faking came at an enormous cost, and quite frankly I don't want to do it anymore.
Read Susan Cain's "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking":
http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/Despite its flaws it is a very important book. Watch her TED talk and see what you think. The book has literally changed my perspective about myself and my introversion. I'm learning to accept that that's what I am, and quite frankly, I haven't felt freer and happier in all my life.
Perhaps friends will come more easily once you become more at ease with being an introvert. We're made to feel weird for it, but we're not. Friendships are easier when we are at ease with who we really are.
Good luck,
Human