Everyone? Or just one person?

I remember one who did try to invalidate. Someone who obviously thinks his/her experience trumps all others.

I know your statement is rhetorical rather than literal, but please leave me out of it. And whomever you're referring to, just don't engage them in conversation. Avoid their threads and such.

The poster named Seriously was obviously in a mood when he/she wrote that. It was not an attack on you Tristan. Let it roll off your back.

"Seriously" isn't everyone. [Hugs]

An interesting thing I have found about Mormonism is that each Mormon could have very different understandings and experiences in the religion.

Just because you hadn't heard a certain term being used doesn't mean you weren't a Mormon and that your experience in the church wasn't important.

For example, my mom was a lifetime Mormon but didn't know about polygamy in heaven. It shocked me because my dad was a bishop, stake pres, and mish pres.

Your experiences in Mormonism are valid Tristan (powerslave) and I'm glad you have shared them here with us. I've enjoyed your posts and insights that you have shared.

Just because people's experiences were different than yours does not make yours invalid or mean that people invalidated them.

There was one person on that thread who was rude. Let it roll off your back and don't take it personal.

I'm sorry. I am very tired, & I have been up dealing with some messes my TBM sister made. I know it isn't an excuse, but that's why I'm angry. The people in this so-called "family" invalidate me on a daily basis, so when someone on the outside says something that makes me feel invalidated as well, I get very upset.

It also doesn't help that my TBM mom is really pushing for me to go to cult activities & even Sacrament meeting now. I have been out for nearly 13 years for crying out loud - haven't believed since I was 8 3/4, & she's pushing me to go to Sacrament meeting & conferences? It's making my head want to explode.



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Tristan, remember that silence can be an answer. Don't feel that you need to respond when she gets into that mode. Tell her, "no, I will not be going to any church meetings or activities." Then ignore her when she keeps yapping on about it. Let her talk to herself.

Also -- I deal with kids being rude and disrespectful to me on a daily basis, so I know how constant bad behavior directed towards you can wear you down. I just think about my future pension and my retirement. Perhaps there is something pleasant that you can think about that will mentally take you away.



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I don't respond to her most of the time. We actually really don't talk to each other anymore, except for housework & what's going on for the day. & I know this asking if I'll go to church or church activities is not in her line of thinking, so someone must be putting these ideas in her head.

In that case, swearing is sometimes therapeutic. A nice, crispy F-U!, said out loud or in your head directed at the oppressor is a handy technique, at least for me.



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Hey charles, are you previously charles, not logged in? If so, how's Tokyo?

Are you the former Tristan-Powerslave, or someone else?

The same person.

Yes, that's me.

Why are you looking to other people for validation?

That's a hard cycle to break after a lifetime. Hell I still do it.

I picked up two new hobbies in my ongoing, "give fewer sh!ts what people think, happier life" program.

I'm not. I'm just tired of people being assholes.

Love your posts and contributions Tristan! -smo

What Charles & the Man in Black said. And also, what my awesome youngest step-son would say when a jealous schoolmate "throws shade" his way, "Haters gonna hate."



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