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anon today
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Date: November 09, 2015 03:04AM
I guess I just need somewhere to vent & would appreciate any helpful feedback.
I'll try to keep things a short as I can. I grew up in an overzealous fanatical TBM family. My father was extremely emotional abusive & physically abusive. As a result all of my siblings & my mother have issues relating to the abuse. The most serious is my sister who has struggled for years with what was misdiagnosed as bipolar & borderline personality disorder. A few years ago she finally was given the correct diagnosis of D.I.D. (multiple personalities). She also has debilitating anxiety as well as some other health issues. She is on SSI but cannot afford a place to live let alone other necessities. As a result she has always had to live with friends & family. At this point living with any other family members is not feasible. Being around them triggers things that are not good for anyone involved. Earlier this year she attempted suicide & we invited her to live with us again. At this point there is nowhere else for her to go & if she were living alone I know she would kill herself.
I also have some very serious health issues & am stuck in bed 95% of the time. My husband has had to pick up the slack & does all of the errands, chauffeuring kids around, grocery shopping, most of the cooking etc. on top of working full time. For the most part her moving here has been a big help for all of us. It has taken some of pressure off of me & my husband when she is able to run small errands or help out a little around the house. I have very frightening symptoms due to my illness & have been to the ER multiple times. It's been a huge relief to have another adult around when my husband is at work etc.
As you can imagine there are also some big challenges. One of the biggest is religion as she is hard core TBM. In the past we have usually been respectful of each others opinions & have agreed to disagree. Lately arguments have been increasing especially over gay marriage & the new announcement. Ironically she has SSA but chooses not to act upon her feelings & risk the "eternal consequences". She agrees with the church 1000% & does all the required mental gymnastics to justify everything. I do not agree with the things she believes & will not allow her to mouth off her bigoted homophobic opinions in front of my kids without responding back.
Lately she is stuck on calling me a hypocrite over & over. She also claims that I am twisting her words when I point things out like her bigotry when she says that ex-mormon's (me) & gay people should not live in utah because we don't belong (fit in) here. She thinks the mormon's were here first & deserve to have a sanctuary away from the rest of the evil world. Anyway, I saw this posted on her FB today as a passive aggressive response to our last argument..
Is anyone else as sick and tired of all the crap in the world as I am? Why can’t people just love! Why don’t people realize how ridicules all these anti things are!!! The fundamental law of life is like attracts like! If one wants to prevent bulling than you teach others how to accept others and how to love others not focusing on teaching anti-bulling that creates more victim minded mindsets that are more damaging!
Another example of the very thing I’m talking about is anti-Christens who claim that Christens believe they have a higher moral high ground and yet the anti-Christens in that very statement are believing that they have a higher moral high ground than Christens and in the very act are hypocrites in the highest degree! If I could have one wish I would wish that I could just go home to a Heavenly Home and leave this world behind! I’m so done with all this this life and people turning things into things they are not! I’m so sick and tired of my words being taken completely wrong because no cares to actually listen and hear what I am actually saying!!!!! This life sucks and I hate it so much!!!! I try sooooo soooo hard to focus on the good and positive things I do have in life!!!! But over and over my words are twisted by others and turned into things they are not and I am so sick and tired of it! I fight so hard to just shut my mouth and let it go because the very act of writing this is doing the very thing I’m complaining about and therefore making me a hypocrite myself!!!! I try so hard to just let things go and focus on the good but it is so hard sometimes!!!!!
and she posted this..
Honestly I have to admit that when I heard the churches resent announcement I was outraged! I was pissed! I couldn't believe that the church could be so- what I called heartless! However I took my anger to the Lord and expressed how I felt and asked HIM how the church could implement something that would hurt so many children if this was truly His church! My answer was clear and humbling and personal! I will not share the answers I got because they were gained from deep person honest seeking an are mine to hold. I encourage each of you to seek out your own understanding!!! However I will say that if you read this you will understand where I now stand! It's a really good read! Christ loved everyone deeply and yet he drew very clear lines! Just because a line is drawn dose not mean that one cannot love! Most parents love their children deeply but have very clear lines they draw themselves!!!!
Thank you so much if you've made it through this whole post. Writing everything has at least helped a little. I guess the thing that bothers me the most is that she has convinced herself how evil & mean I am when I have been the complete opposite. I'm not saying that I couldn't have handled things better, but I HAVE listened to her side. I totally understand what she is saying & what she means. I just absolutely disagree with her & say so. She has no credible arguments to refute anything I have said & has basically resorted to pouting & making accusations that have nothing to do with what we were even arguing about. Now she has our family & her entire friend list on FB joining her pity party against her evil apostate sister. I am also very worried about her state of mind & if she is really to a point of attempting suicide again. I told her I am done arguing with her. I guess I just need to let things go.