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Date: December 23, 2015 09:58PM
> "I found out the truth 3 years ago, resigned, and we all haven't been to church since that time."
Not trying to be rude here, but how did this happen, if you don't mind my asking?
It may be just the awkwardness of trying to type one's history in a single post, but understandably reads a little out of balance.
As pleased as I am to see that she also left, I have to question, is she still TBM in her heart, won't join you in sowing oats, has no oats of her own?
I'm not trying to be judgemental, but trying to question if you should question what it is you're after, and the areas of your lives you want opened for discussion.
What if your wife had been the author of your post? Are you okay if she gets a sitter, and you both go digging in new fields? She may feel that she lost out too, by marrying when she was so young. I'll assume she is a SAHM, so she also lost out on a career and fifteen years to build it. Just guessing, but if so, you both sowing oats could open a world of possibilities for her in that area as well. It might be damned good for her, in discovering her authentic self.
You asked for help, but really didn't say why she is not a part, of this part, of your journey out.
I don't need or want answers to these questions, but I hope for you that you either know them, or will discover them, before you choose to act on the well-earned rage inspired by TSSC. Were I you, I would also be interested to know how my wife was coping with her rage, especially after I shared with her how much I lost when I chose her, no matter how softly I had tried to explain it.
Awesome is as awesome does.