I posted a while back that my wife succumbed to her cancer:

http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,2013073,2013073#msg-2013073

Her memorial service is tomorrow.

I hate to admit it, but I was dreading my TBM and neverMo Brother coming (I've posted many times about the toxicity in my family). Strangely, even after posting self-aggrandizing comments on Facebook the morning she passed away, neither one has even asked about the arrangements.

Is it wrong that I'm relieved that they're not coming? Is it hypocritical to notice the absence of interest?

I went through a simular situation. No family member asked about the arrangements but when time came for the ceremony most family members were there.

I was fortunate they did not try and run or influence the ceremony.

After the ceremony they quiety dissapeared.

There is nothing wrong in finding relief in avoiding a confrontation especially one at a stressful time.

Again I am sorry for your loss and wish you the best.

No, it's not wrong.

It just means the people there will be those who loved and appreciated her.

You have my deepest sympathies, and I hope you're OK. I can't imagine losing my wife of 25 years, she makes every day better. Sending you manly internet hugs...