Posted by:
Kristy
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Date: November 20, 2018 04:53PM
My very TBM mother has been assigned to "minister" over a lady that was baptized by the mishes last year. The RS president asked my very elderly mother (86 years) to transport the woman to church, fellowship her, and assist her as needed.
The problem is that this woman is f'ing nasty. She is literally so infested with bed bugs, that they crawl out of her clothing while she is at church. I found this out in conversation with my mother today - a conversation that went like this (I left the church 10 years ago, but still have good relationship w/ my TBM parents):
Me: Hi mom. How are you doing today? Were you able to go Christmas shopping yesterday as planned?
Mom: No, I had to take "Mary" (not her real name) to the store.
Me: Oh really, why are you taking her anyplace, didn't you tell me that she has adult children who help her?
Mom: Well, her kids are mad at her because she keeps getting bed bugs, and is not vigilant enough to do what is needed to get rid of them. Her kids have told her that she is not allowed to go to church because of the bed bugs, and she is very stubborn.
Me: Uhh...ok..did you just say that this woman has bed bugs, and that she is so nasty and unclean that even her own kids are mad at her for her uncleanliness.
Mom: Weellll..she had them treated once, but they came back, and dad and I, looked it up, and we found out that bed bugs leave eggs, which don't always get exterminated the first time around and we think this is what happened.
Me: Ok..um...well..don't I recall that this woman was in your house, watching general conference recently, you were asked by the Bishop to invite her over? Do you have this woman ride in your car?
Mom: Welll...yes, well, but we don't go in her house.
Me: Mom..hello...it doesn't matter. They hide. Bed bugs hide in purses, clothing, sacks, etc. Mom please stop...stop seeing this woman. You are putting all of us at risk, you grand children, your church family, neighbors, etc. Do you want bed bugs? Do want to be responsible for someone who spread this because you feel so compelled to follow the bishops instructions that you place this about the safety and healthy of your own family.
Mom: Ok, I hear you and you think I don't, but will stop bringing over to the house, and when she uh..uh...get's rid of the bugs, then we'll start taking her to church.
Me. UGHH..what...why? why? Why must you hang out w/ someone who is so nasty, unclean, and just plain gross...I just feel like beating head against the wall.
Mom: Well, I've told you to much dear...do you not want me to come over to your house now?
Me: My God mother, please listen to me. I don't want bed bugs. No one does. It's hard to get rid of them. They suck your blood at night. They are very intelligent creatures. I don't want you go get bed bugs mother, and to be honest you have probably been infested, do you know what they look like?
Mom: Well, one at church, dad and I were standing in the foyer with Mary, and we noticed that two bugs were crawling on her coat, and we asked, 'Mary are those beg bugs? and she said, no they weren't", but later dad and I looked it up, and we saw a picture on google - and yes those were indeed bed bugs. So yes, I do know what they look like, and NO I DON'T HAVE BED BUGS.
Me: You let her get back in your car, after seeing that? Are you kidding me? OMG..mother. What makes think that someone who is so infested, to the point that the bugs crawl around on her so much, that somehow they are NOT going to infest crawl out into your car?
Mom: (drumb roll)...well honey, I know that you don't believe in the church any more, but we are doing the Lord's work and he will protect us.
Me: Mom..oh my gosh...mother. No. No. No....it doesn't work like that.
Anyway, that's the way the conversation went. It is just infuriating dealing with the Mormon mindset. So compelled to be a righteous Mormons, even to the extent of placing Mormonism among all else.