Posted by:
exminion
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Date: August 19, 2019 01:19PM
I admit that I am overly sensitive about Mormons telling me what to do, after a lifetime of that BS. But, I don't want to give them an opportunity to shun or gossip, either. I have no desire to confront them.
I will go out of my way to avoid wearing a long skirt. I'm not tall enough, either, and I like to play with little kids, move around, bend over, go out in the wind, ride a bicycle or a horse or a scooter, if I get the chance. High heels are too constricting, too, like having bound feet. Our feet hurt, we can't run, we slip on the ice. Some of my Mormon friends have had foot surgery and have permanent foot damage, from wearing high heels.
High heels used to be required in the BYU dress code, everywhere on the campus, all day on Sundays. "Skirt, heels and hose." Sometimes, we would have to walk a mile to church meetings there, and in the snow, and our feet and legs would be freezing, and no one cared. We were just females.
I don't go where a skirt is required, either. Pants are dressy enough for an opera or a dinner or a business cocktail party. I'm single, and I stay home and babysit on New Year's Eve. IMO, dancing and tennis are the only activities where a skirt is better, for the sake of movement.
I wear pants to other religious events, with no problem. If a Mormon funeral is being held at a mortuary chapel, pants are fine there, too. Most of my family members have had funerals at a mortuary, or just a graveside service. As for Mormon funerals, I avoid the preaching in the chapel, altogether. I go to the viewing the night before, so I won't miss work. I can give the family my condolences, and sign the guest register, so they will know I'm there, and thinking of them, and it is good to say some nice, happy things about the deceased, etc. I like to write something short and sweet on the mortuary website, too, and that's all they need from me. For me, hearing a sermon on the Plan of Salvation upsets me, and does nothing to honor the deceased. I go and do something we would have done together.