Posted by:
exminion
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Date: September 13, 2019 06:08PM
You have some very good advice, from some very good people! Most of us have had experiences dating Mormons and returned missionaries.
I know that "rejection" can put you in a dark and gloomy place. The reason I use quotes around that word, is that you are not the one who was discarded and left behind. It is the missionary that has been pulled out of his life and sidelined in a strange Hell for two of his most formative years. I pity him, and all missionaries. They are mistreated, verbally bashed, under constant constraints, like prisoners.
I pray that you might understand that you really did dodge a bullet, and that YOUR life will be BETTER without him and his cult dominating it. Trust me! I married the "perfect" returned missionary, and he beat me, and almost killed me. He had previous arrests for assault, and had beaten his sister.
For me, and for you, and for any young girl who is dating--you need to find INFORMATION about the person!
"You probably feel more hooked on him because all the control was taken from you and is in his hands, including information which would have helped you." Quoted from LJ12
You have time! Find out more about the Mormon church, and its dark underbelly. It is a CULT, founded by a polygamous, convicted con-man, who made his money by conning people into searching for buried treasure. He used magical "seer stones" to look for "treasure", which he didn't find. His father also had been a con man. The Mormon cult is based on lies, and moves forward with lies, just like today. The motive is MONEY. The Mormon cult wants 10% of every member's income, for life! They want you, too! As a group, Mormons are judgmental and un-Christian. The poster is right, who says that you won't find God or Christ in the Mormon church. Those are just words they use in advertising their cult.
But, you can discover these things for yourself. Let some light into the dark despair you are feeling! Too bad the missionary's brother is gone, but you can find other family members or friends to talk to. I had never met my ex-husband's family, until after we were married, and it was too late! Be a detective hired by yourself. Stay open-minded, to be sure you don't put your own slant on the facts. Write them down. Weigh the pro's and con's. Maybe, with you, your brain will never completely overrule your heart, but I promise that your brain can calm you down, and give you some peace.
Study! Come here on RFM and read some of the stories about quick courtships and hasty marriages, about cults, about Mormonism and how it can destroy families, about Joseph Smith and his legacy of lies and disrespect for women. Flood your brain with facts!
While you are doing this, keep your mind open in meeting other people, and making new friends, male and female. Probably 50% of eligible guys you meet will be better than the missionary who left. Make some good girl friends, too, preferably not Mormons.
After my horrible divorce, I eventually married a good friend's brother.
There's so much to life--especially at your age--that just one person should not determine whether or not you are happy and successful! The saying, "There are many fish in the sea" is very true. ((hugs and luck to you))