Hey guys, I normally post stuff like this on r/exmoteens (subreddit) but the iPad I use had it's password switched and my computer (that I'm posting from) doesn't respond to reddit.

Anyway, I'm gonna be 15 in two weeks from today, and my parents are telling me that I need to have my next 5ish years planned. I do, but I act like I don't just because I want to avoid my mission discussions as much as possible.

My parent's are really trying to find alone time with me, and trying to talk about it whenever they can with me, and it's hard to keep blowing it off. My exmo cousins told me that I should just either tell them I'm an exmo and face the consequences, or just tell them I'm going to school for a year first and then when I'm above 18 I can tell them my real feelings.
(I won't be 18 when I graduate, late summer birthday for me)

I'm choosing the "go to school for a year" option, and then tell them. Hopefully I'll get into the U of U, so I can join a frat and be in a good business school as well.
(I'd just use money I saved up to pay for it)

I don't want to be deceitful, and I'm generally an honest person, but sometimes.... you've gotta do what you've gotta do. I don't telling my parents the summer after I graduate is a good idea, because one, they could legally force and ground me to study my scriptures for 2 months, and make my life hell and always bring up mormonism.

If there are any flaws or better ideas, always let me know.

I agree. Tell them you'd like to go to school for a year and then go on your mission. Then, do what you'd like after that.

I don't like to lie either, so I know how hard this can be. But, as you say, you got to do what you got to do.

That sounds like a good plan. What I would tell your parents is that your plan is get good grades, earn some money, and do a year in college before making any further decisions. You are only 15, your plans do not need to be any more detailed than that.

When you turn 18, take your parents off your bank accounts immediately.

Oh, hell yeah dude. I'll probably do that immediately lol.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/02/2020 03:40PM by hujo2.

Do it on your birthday. Withdraw all money and establish your own account, perhaps at another bank altogether.

Thats a good idea. I don't think my parents are that machiavellian, but it's always good to be careful.. :)

BE SURE TO HAVE A CERTIFIED COPY OF YOUR BIRTH CERTIFICATE WITH YOU WHEN YOU DO THIS!!! Do not give the bank one fleck of ammunition to use against you. Have absolutely unquestionable proof of your age (Heck, even take your Mormon baptismal certificate along as EXTRA proof of your age so they can't question your legal right to close out your bank accounts and remove the names of your parents from them!)

You may not get a second chance to strike if the bank can deny you the first time. Do it on your birthday and have UNDENIABLE proof of your age with you.

(If anybody here works in the banking industry, maybe they can add things that have escaped me. Get it right the first time!!)

You'd think that the Church would not want someone to go on a mission when they don't actually believe in the cause.

The problem with missions is that it isn't even about you. It's about your parents. They get to pat themselves on the back for being good Mormon parents and sit there all proud in Church because their kid is on a mission. It makes them look good.

However you choose to handle it, the most-important thing is that you follow the plan for your own life and not try to please other people.

Of course, as long as you are not yet an adult, that will mean finding some way of keeping under the radar, while you make your own plans.

100% true. Thats the code I live by. My life is for me, and not anyone else. Same goes for everyone in the world. Funny how older TBM's will size each other up on how their kids did.

hujo2 Wrote:
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>... I act like I
> don't just because I want to avoid my mission
> discussions as much as possible.
>

You should do it as little, not as much, as possible.

By trying to put it off you will (have them) keep bringing it up. They might can see right through some things.

> My parent's are really trying to find alone time
> with me, and trying to talk about it whenever they
> can with me, and it's hard to keep blowing it off.

> My exmo cousins told me that I should just either
> tell them I'm an exmo and face the consequences,
> or just tell them I'm going to school for a year
> first and then when I'm above 18 I can tell them
> my real feelings.
> (I won't be 18 when I graduate, late summer
> birthday for me)
>
> I'm choosing the "go to school for a year" option,
> and then tell them. Hopefully I'll get into the U
> of U, so I can join a frat and be in a good
> business school as well.
> (I'd just use money I saved up to pay for it)
>
> I don't want to be deceitful, and I'm generally an
> honest person, but sometimes.... you've gotta do
> what you've gotta do. I don't telling my parents
> the summer after I graduate is a good idea,
> because one, they could legally force and ground
> me to study my scriptures for 2 months, and make
> my life hell and always bring up mormonism.
>
> If there are any flaws or better ideas, always let
> me know.

Yes there are flaws. A better idea is to lay it all out there and say you KNOW it isn't true. And besides, you'd rather do better things with your time.

Your cousins are right.

That's a risky strategy. Some kids that have done that have had their high school years made completely miserable by their parents i.e no car privileges, no sports or activities, no jobs, no dating, doubling down on church and church activities, etc. That's why I think that normally, the best approach is to do what is expected and to fly under the radar.

I know...

I had nothing coming to me so I took what was coming to me.

I'm sorry nothing was really going for you. Personally, I play football, and I'm also very financially ambitious as well. I really don't want to lose those lol.

I agree summer, my parents have said to me "no church, no football." I can't loose that as it's my main hobby and a place to take out my emotions physically. No cars would suck too hahaha.

Hmmm, maybe I'll not avoid it, and just tell them I'm going after a year of college. Like summer said, I don't want to risk privileges.

A lot of kids do just that. And by that time, you are out of the house and a lot more independent.

Tell them you will just tell everyone the truth.

Some mission

lol

My mission is to have FUN in college!!

I can't be a party animal now, but I definitely will be later!!:)

+ufotofu:
"Tell them you will just tell everyone the truth.

Some mission"

==I think that is a good plan. A mormon once told me that elder means educator. So, hujo2 should go out there and educate people about the problems of mormonism. Might as well give people the URL for this site as well. They can come here and I'll be hapy to give more information.

~~~~iceman9090