Keep it to yourself
You never let them know what you really think.
Tell them what they want to hear.

Boundaries
Always establish boundaries when you meet someone new.
Say I think I am happy to meet you. However I am a great believer in not invading boundaries. So I always ask a couple of questions whenever I meet someone of the opposite sex.
Are you married?
Are you in a committed relationship with another human being?
These two questions will set the stage for a positive acquaintance ship. With the asking of these two questions everyone knows where everyone stands.
Also we must be careful to not invade the privacy of another human being nor violate a confidence.
It is very important that confidential meetings or interviews or interviews be documented so that there can never be a misunderstanding about the subject matter covered.
It will be important when church meetings are resumed that I always have my tape recorder with me.(mobile phone-record)
“I do not participate in undocumented interviews”!

thedesertrat1 Wrote:
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> Say I think I am happy to meet you.

I tend to go without the qualifier "think". I just go for it - happy to meet until proven otherwise.


> However I am a
> great believer in not invading boundaries. So I
> always ask a couple of questions whenever I meet
> someone of the opposite sex.
> Are you married?
> Are you in a committed relationship with another
> human being?

I appreciate the respect for boundaries. But upon just meeting someone I would find the two questions to be quite abrupt. I guess it depends on the details - who are you, why are you meeting, etc.


> It will be important when church meetings are
> resumed that I always have my tape recorder with
> me.(mobile phone-record)

Are you planning on attending meetings again? As for me - not!

I'm not sure about the legality of taping people unless you have permission. I can't see church officials giving the go-ahead for that. What would be your reasoning there?

+Nightingale:
"I'm not sure about the legality of taping people unless you have permission. I can't see church officials giving the go-ahead for that. What would be your reasoning there?"

==We aren't recording the voices of individuals.
We are recording the voices of a church and a church is not a human being. It is just a collection of claims.
We are just doing data extraction from an entity called "the church".
We then spread the information around for others to learn from it.

^^^^^That would be my response.

~~~~iceman9090

Nightingale Wrote:
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> thedesertrat1 Wrote:
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> -----
> > Say I think I am happy to meet you.
>
> I tend to go without the qualifier "think". I just
> go for it - happy to meet until proven otherwise.
>
>
> > However I am a
> > great believer in not invading boundaries. So I
> > always ask a couple of questions whenever I
> meet
> > someone of the opposite sex.
> > Are you married?
> > Are you in a committed relationship with
> another
> > human being?
>
> I appreciate the respect for boundaries. But upon
> just meeting someone I would find the two
> questions to be quite abrupt. I guess it depends
> on the details - who are you, why are you meeting,
> etc.
>
>
> > It will be important when church meetings are
> > resumed that I always have my tape recorder
> with
> > me.(mobile phone-record)
>
> Are you planning on attending meetings again? As
> for me - not!
Due to my living arrangements I will be obligated to attend
>
> I'm not sure about the legality of taping people
> unless you have permission. I can't see church
> officials giving the go-ahead for that. What would
> be your reasoning there?
If it is recorded it is difficult to deny. I do not participate in undocumented interviews. If the interviewer declines the recording I decline the interview.
About meetings: public gatherings may be legally recorded

>If it is recorded it is difficult to deny.

Some people manage it! (I can't say here the well-known name I am thinking of but maybe you can guess). :)

Just remember that what you are seeing is not what's happening.

LOL

My understanding is that any public meeting may be legally taped.

Generally true.

I politely ask if I can frisk'em; it gives me insights that are hard to get otherwise. Plus you can suss out the ticklish ones...

You must not be a star. If you're a star, they'll just let you grab 'em.

Yay! Saucie thinks I'm a star! But then, I think she's one, too! ... three...

She's got you trumped.

honesty and motives. They can always lie and not care if you prove it later with a recording.

This reminds me...

A currently incumbent president (I'm not naming names or pointing figures) was revealed to have hung framed and tastefully lighted copies of his "Time Magazine Man of the Year" award cover photos on the walls of golf course clubhouses he owns. Nothing garish; no neon lights, no flashing lightning bolts...

Except that this anonymous individual was never given that award by Time Magazine. An obvious error that was dutifully corrected.

What's the big deal?

Boundaries? These questions seem to be out of bounds. Because they couldn't just keep it to themselves.