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Posted by: mannaz ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 09:17AM

I have first-hand knowledge of a recent Mission President who excommunicated relatively soon after returning home. I've waited awhile to share this here. Multiple instances of adultry going back through his prior calling as a stake president and before. As to how I know, I'll just say I was in a HP calling at the time. As to who it is, I'll leave it to others to 'out' the guy (board rules you know). For trolls and such, perhaps I was in the court of love...

Anyone else have similar examples of the powers of decrement in action? If someone here thinks/knows they served under him do chime in.

He was a real asshole as SP. Really came down on people and enforced his own stricter ideas doctrine and what it meant to keep the commandments. The irony of it all is palpable.

MP callings come from the GA's and ultimately done by the 15. Selected from the pool of names for higher callings submitted by SP's and above who supposedly know them well and are vetted through the same CIA like vetting process that GA's are subject too.

I was also in HP level calling when he was SP. When he was called to be a MP was when all my doubts about my or others having any powers of decernment were confirmed.

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Posted by: brandywine ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 09:22AM

I'm amazed they got rid of him. I've heard tale of other members just getting slapped on the wrist for bad behavior.

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Posted by: deconverted2010 ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:27AM

I was thinking something similar. The adultery was an excuse to get rid of him and discredit him within the church. He must have asked the wrong questions or else he would have been "forgiven" and kept in secrecy.

Perfect Obedience to the leaders is all is required.

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Posted by: brandywine ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:33AM

I thought this too.

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Posted by: HangarXVIII ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 09:24AM

He must not have received the 2nd anointing.

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Posted by: goodeye ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 09:34AM

Yeah, if he had there there would have been no excommunication. Only thing that can get you that and nullify their "2nd annointing" BS is murder.

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Posted by: GNPE ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 09:25AM

Everyone knows the (claimed) extra-ordinary discernment thing is a FARCE in Morland, but (of course) no TBM will admit-acknowledge it.


Different people have varying amounts of intuition, etc; some are better at reading deception signs (body language, tone of voice, etc.); if this was a key selection criterion, I suspect lawyers & cops would go to the head of the list.

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Posted by: axeldc ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 09:32AM

They tell people they can "discern" things so that you will be nervous and confess. Much of their discernment is obvious looks of guilt and concern when they ask you tough questions. If you can maintain a poker face, they have no better discernment than random guessing.

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Posted by: ificouldhietokolob ( )
Date: March 23, 2017 04:24PM

axeldc Wrote:
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> They tell people they can "discern" things so that
> you will be nervous and confess. Much of their
> discernment is obvious looks of guilt and concern
> when they ask you tough questions. If you can
> maintain a poker face, they have no better
> discernment than random guessing.

Indeed. It's like a polygraph test in law enforcement: the test "works" because it scares guilty people into confessing, especially when the "examiner" tells them, "Hmm, there's some problems with your responses...". :)

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Posted by: axeldc ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 09:31AM

When I was starting to come out, I was Stake Exec Secretary. We had Vaughn J. Featherstone come to our Stake Conference. On Friday, I had gone out to dinner with some gay Mormon friends and we talked about coming out, leaving the church, etc. On Saturday and Sunday, I spent all day at church for conference. We had lunch catered by the RS, and I sat right next to Featherstone for lunch. I also participated in the early Sunday morning prayer meeting with the stake bishops, etc.

During the conference, he made several homophobic remarks and made several references to the sin of homosexuality. He was clearly ignorant on the subject, as he comments reflected the bigotry of someone who knew nothing about gays other than the sad confessions he heard as a church leader.

At the end of the conference, Featherstone turned to me, shook my hand and said, "I'm so glad we have such faithful young men in our church." I thought, "He has no idea I'm gay, nor that I'm thinking of leaving the church."

It was just another nail in the coffin of my testimony. If a GA could not tell that I was on verge of apostasy and choosing a gay life, what discernment did my bishop or SP possibly have?

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Posted by: brandywine ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:01AM

You must be a kind soul to not knock that guys teeth out or just letting him have it. It makes me sad that you had to put up with such thoughtless and cruel behavior. I'm also glad you got out and that you can be true to yourself now.

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Posted by: axeldc ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:57AM

It was all so raw and new for me. I wasn't sure at the point what direction I was taking, which is why I kept doing my church job will researching on gays and church history.

It retrospect, you are right, but I wasn't there at that point.

About a month later, my bishop accused me of having a fling with another guy in the ward (not true, though I kinda wished it were). I quickly figured out where he'd heard this from. From the time I left his office until the time I got home, I'd mentally left the church. I said to myself, "Who does he think he is?", and then it struck me that he's a nobody who only has power over me because I give it to him. I never attended that ward again, and hardly ever attended church at all after that.

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Posted by: brandywine ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 11:09AM

Isn't a great feeling when you realize they have ZERO power over you?

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Posted by: mannaz ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 11:03AM

Actually, for me the only time he hurt me or mine was when he was mean to one of my kids in their interview to put in their missionary papers. Shamed and guilted them for not having done something minor he thought they should have as part of their personal mission prep. Completely ignored that they did significantly more than most to get ready.

It was then that I started to pay a lot more attention to how he handled things in other contexts, what he said in public and private, and realized whisperings of deeds past were probably credible.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 09/25/2015 11:05AM by mannaz.

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Posted by: brandywine ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 11:12AM

He was mean to one of your kids? Cruelty to my kids is a gloves off and face my wrath response. We all put up with way too much in that stupid cult.

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Posted by: Lethbridge Reprobate ( )
Date: March 23, 2017 06:59PM

I cannot imagine my reaction had a bishop or SP verbally abused my children. Actually I do...and it would not have been a PG response. So glad my children never saw the inside of a Mormon church.

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Posted by: Amyjo ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 09:36AM

He really went to town on the "spiritual wives" aspect of gospel doctrine.

What the church teaches, and professes, is diametrically opposed to moral living.

It's like talking out of two sides of its mouth.

It punishes men for imitating the prophet Joseph.

But it doesn't punish Joseph. What's with that?

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Posted by: brandywine ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:02AM

+1

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Posted by: cheezus ( )
Date: March 23, 2017 05:23PM

It's the doctrine of 'give Brother Joseph a break'.

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Posted by: Ch ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 09:37AM

I've never come across the word decrement before (it's not even in spellcheck), but I like it:

DECREMENT. 1. : a gradual decrease in quality or quantity. 2. a : the quantity lost by diminution or waste.

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Posted by: RPackham ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:16AM

Ch Wrote:
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> I've never come across the word decrement before
> (it's not even in spellcheck), but I like it:
>
> DECREMENT. 1. : a gradual decrease in quality or
> quantity. 2. a : the quantity lost by diminution
> or waste.

It's just the opposite of INCREMENT: a gradual increase.

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Posted by: Chicken N. Backpacks ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:32AM

Next time I pay Scrabble--BAM!

If another player asks, I'll say "It's what's happening to the Mormon church."

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Posted by: mannaz ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:51AM

Damn that autocorrect! :)

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Posted by: WestBerkeleyFlats ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:08AM

Ummm, Mark Hoffman?

Hinckley gave a general conference address trying to explain away the Joseph Smith III blessing, which turned out to be a fake - https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1981/04/the-joseph-smith-iii-document-and-the-keys-of-the-kingdom?lang=eng

"[ed. note: This blessing was later discovered to be a forgery, a fact that in no way affects the history of priesthood succession in the Church or the wisdom of Elder’s Hinckley’s observations herein.]"

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Posted by: brandywine ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:20AM

The ed. note is amusing. They may as well have said, "Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain".

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Posted by: mannaz ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 11:05AM

Much much more recent

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Posted by: One Who Posted ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:23AM

Any indication of how many people he excommunicated for adultery while operating in adultery himself?

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Posted by: brandywine ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:24AM

I didn't even think of that! What irony.

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Posted by: One Who Posted ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:28AM

It's actually a very common thing. Adulterous SPs, SP counselors, high council members, and bishops excommunicate and otherwise discipline people all the time for sexual "sins" while in relationships themselves.

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Posted by: mannaz ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:50AM

So true. But for me I could rationalize that (amazing when I think back). However, at the MP level it was just too much to rationalize that. I lost the last bit of my 'virginity' ther and now see the whole matter for what it is.

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Posted by: brandywine ( )
Date: September 25, 2015 10:57AM

I don't think that I could have rationalized that kind of behavior. I just had my head in the sand and didn't think those kind of things happened with leaders. I guess I thought there was some kind of magical thing that happened to PH leaders to make them non-sexual and uber righteous.

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Posted by: mannaz ( )
Date: March 23, 2017 06:52PM

I don't know how many people he may have excommunicated while SP. He was a real 'law and order' asshole so I imagine at least whatever might be typical plus some.

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Posted by: Agnes Broomhead ( )
Date: March 23, 2017 04:18PM

Any updates? Can anyone name him?

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Posted by: ificouldhietokolob ( )
Date: March 23, 2017 04:53PM

Agnes Broomhead Wrote:
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> Any updates? Can anyone name him?

He wasn't from Cedar City by any chance, was he...?

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Posted by: mannaz ( )
Date: March 23, 2017 06:55PM

It would be doxing to name names and that is against the site rules. I am comfortable saying the guy was not from cedar city.

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Posted by: mannaz ( )
Date: March 23, 2017 07:07PM

Surprised my thread got picked up again after two years. Shortly afterwards I 'quit' the bishopric I served on and completely 'left the building' - I well out of the loop for any updates on where the guy is at now. When he was called to be a MP any illusions I may have had about power of discernment went out the window. He was known to be a real piece of work before he got the MP call. But he was wealthy, young, and stereotype GA persona.

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Posted by: ificouldhietokolob ( )
Date: March 23, 2017 08:13PM

mannaz Wrote:
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> It would be doxing to name names and that is
> against the site rules. I am comfortable saying
> the guy was not from cedar city.

Cool.
Interesting, though, that a person fitting your entire description *very well* (including having been an MP) and having been ex'd is someone I know. But from Cedar City :)

Clearly this isn't a unique situation...

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Posted by: mannaz ( )
Date: March 25, 2017 10:41PM

That is pretty amazing. You would think there would be better 'vetting'. This case is outside Mordor.

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Posted by: Stray Mutt ( )
Date: March 23, 2017 04:25PM

mannaz Wrote:
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> Really came down on
> people and enforced his own stricter ideas
> doctrine and what it meant to keep the
> commandments.

That seems to be common behavior among guilty people in positions of authority.

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Posted by: snowball ( )
Date: March 23, 2017 04:28PM

HP? What do the high priests have to do with this?

Or does that mean something else? Or did you mean something else--HC perhaps for high council?

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Posted by: mannaz ( )
Date: March 25, 2017 10:47PM

You typically Become a High Priest when you are given a calling that requires that 'priesthood'. These callings boil down to carrying out church policies and overseeing that the various auxiliaries are towing the line. As part of the HP specific calling you often become privy to all kinds of personal information and other things being kept on the 'down low'.

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Posted by: RR ( )
Date: March 23, 2017 07:42PM

Was he married to a Farnsworth girl and serve in South America?

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Posted by: mannaz ( )
Date: March 25, 2017 10:38PM

I don't think so. But his wife's illness was the cover story when he was released early if that helps.

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Posted by: Joseph Smith ( )
Date: March 24, 2017 03:29AM


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Posted by: Goofy1 ( )
Date: March 25, 2017 01:45AM

My ex was the ward executive secretary, meeting at least once a week with the entire bishopbric. At this same time, he was having an affair (at least one) with his client. The bishop did not "discern" anything. That's when I lost my belief in the power of discernment.

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Posted by: Apostle Richard R. Lyman ( )
Date: February 13, 2018 01:50PM

I bear my testimony about the Gift of Discernment. I was ordained an Apostle in 1918. In 1925 I began an adulterous affair. It went undetected for 18 years. During that time I had to put my affair on ice for 2 years 1936-1938 because the First Presidency made me the European Mission President. This was right before WW2 so Heavenly Father was so obviously concerned about preparing Europe for that great war that he put an adulterer in charge of all the missions there. In 1940 my wife became General President of the Relief Society. In October 1943 I welcomed two new Apostles into our Quorum - Spencer W. Kimball and Ezra Taft Benson - and once again was sustained myself as a Prophet, Seer, and Revelator. Of course if anyone had voted NO against me, such as having a concern that an Adulterer should not be a holy Prophet/Seer/Revelator, then they would have been in apostasy. But alas for 18 years every conference I got the votes and got sustained as a holy Apostle and Prophet/Seer/Revelator.

In Nov 1943 the Salt Lake police caught me in bed with my mistress. With the news on this now in the public the Holy Ghost suddenly gave the Brethrne the gift of discernment. I was ex'ed within a week.

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Posted by: elderolddog ( )
Date: February 13, 2018 01:58PM

Hey, Richie, when you died, did your Second Anointing work to your satisfaction as a 'get out of jail' card?

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