Date: May 19, 2017 02:45AM
My former nanny was a convert at the age of 11, and ,my parents say, tried harder than anyone they knew to do everything the church asked and to be therefore perfect. My mom said the wife of a counselor in the BYU-Hawaii stake presidency, during the Relief Society session of ward conference, used my nanny as an example in her talk to that university ward's relief society sisters. "Take Megan, for example," the counselor said. "Megan is a GOOD girl, and she tries, REALLY tries, but sometimes trying isn't enough. Not all of us are cut out for the celestial kingdom, and not all of us will end up there, even as servants. My guess is that Megan is one of those who will not quite make the cut, bless her heart, but she'll serve valiantly in a lower kingdom, where she will be needed."
My older sister was there with my mom and said my mom almost had a coronary and challenged the stake presidency counselor's wife about what point exactly she was trying to make and what scripture backed it up, but the damage was done. (I heard the lady was called on the carpet to explain why she would say such a thing, but again, it was too little too late.) It just validated what Megan already knew, which was that she could try her hardest, but she would never truly be one of them, If there really was a celestial kingdom, which she believed there was with all her heart at the time, she wasn't getting into it no matter what she did or didn't do. Now, of course, she's very happy not to be one of them and knows the celestial kingdom is a poorly-authored fairy tale, but at the time it stung.