Date: January 15, 2018 08:44PM
It grew slowly.
My first disbelief came when I started to see all the advantages men had, especially as compared with the accompanying misogynistic view of females.
Starting with my own father (he believed girls were next to worthless--just to serve men), while boys were (obviously) smarter and better in every way.
When I was about 18, my mother (at my request) bought me a BofM for my birthday. Same type of thing in the bk: Male supremacy over female. And, men ruled the world.
Then, I started noticing how my father treated her (he didn't beat her), he 'just' used her. For instance, she had to, literally, beg for household money, to the point of tears (and she was a strong woman). And, when I told her I had to have new school shoes (the soles on the ones I had began to 'flap' with each step), she told me it was all right with her---but I would have to get the money for them from my father.
After her awful evenings of begging for household money, he would roll up all the money he held in his hand, and stick it back into his pocket for his own personal use.
Then I began to think of God---did God also prefer men over women? But, could God be God if he thought less of females than males?
I concluded that God loved all his children equally (according to behavior, not gender).
So, anyway, all these thoughts coming together, and I began to realize 'the priesthood' itself, Mormon-style, was misogynistic.
And now, back to the above posted Q ("When did you first realize you were brainwashed?"), my answer is it came slowly at first, and then rapidly sped-up.
And here I am now. A non-active Mormon, and happy to be so. If someone asks me 'Why'?, I ask them, "Do you really want to know?"
So far, no one has crossed over this bridge--even my own family (three 'active', and two not.)
And, all of us are on loving terms with each other.