Posted by:
angela
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Date: February 08, 2018 07:48PM
Ok, looking for those who are going to understand what I am about to say.
Normal cultural expectations are that when a new baby is born into a family, you are supposed to be all happy and "oohhh ahhhh awww" about it.
I have offered sincere (well as sincere as I can be, to be honest) congratulations to the family.
Yet.
This child has been born into an extremely dysfunctional family, and I am sad for her. So much drama, screwed-up-ness, etc etc. And yes, mental health issues that are not under a doctor's supervision.
I feel fake and phony with the "congrats". Because of the f-ed up ness of the family, I chose several years ago to put the family (for clarification, not the actual couple who just had the baby, but the new father's parents; i.e. the new grandparents) outside of my boundries. It was just the healthier choice for everyone involved.
But I hurt for this new little girl.
Insights and thoughts are welcome.