Date: February 11, 2018 01:48AM
I've seen these discussions on LDS sites and here, and the end result is usually the same - its the guy's fault for not meeting his wife's demands prior to sex. The guy is led around by the nose and slapped if he gets too horny. You are never to fully enjoy sex the way a man wants to. Has to be on her terms.
If only you were more romantic, or gave her back rubs, etc, etc, she would be interested. Somehow you don't require all that, so it is obvious that you have different desires. In general, women are less interested, due to testosterone and anatomy.
Some say she might have just not known how to get an orgasm. Well how hard is that to learn? If you're actually horny, or attracted to your spouse, you can figure it out. Guys certainly didn't need training. More evidence of a desire issue.
And by the way, it is also good if you make alot of money, and are tall and handsome and fit.
And if you're too nice, many women lose respect for you and aren't interested.
You should have played the same game with money. You should have held your paycheck until she met your demands. Or maybe only go to work when you felt like it. But then you would be told to "man up" and quit being a jerk.
That's the thing, you probably felt some obligation to go to work, but few women feel an obligation toward sex. The whole marriage thing is for them to get the most for the least. Once they have you trapped, the less they have to put out.
Wedding vows are only about restricting sex with others, not about providing it to each other. I read on an LDS site of a guy not getting sex for 18 years and his wife was prominent in church, RS president, etc.
Then we are told of women's oppression in church. Why can't such guys use their priesthood and command their wives to offer sex? Unfortunately the priesthood only works if wives allow it. So who is in control?
This issue is part of the scam of marriage, which is not as advertised. More and more men are waking up and checking out and going MGTOW or red pill.
I was researching this topic last year and came upon this discussion by women who hated sex. Quite an eye opener. Including a wife who only allowed sex when wanting to get pregnant. Women who think sex is gross. Then a woman who said the majority of he women she talks to don't want to have sex, but go through the motions, or get divorced.https://forums.webmd.com/3/sex-and-relationships-exchange/forum/9407?pg=1
That is what is going on in the world, yet guys are led to believe they will have regular sex in marriage. Again, there is no obligation, and many, if not most wives just aren't interested.
As for porn, she obviously didn't like you looking at it, because she needs monopoly control over your sexuality in order to get more from you. If you have an alternate outlet, you are less likely to bow to her demands. Which is why sex generally is made to be obscene and dirty. It is about control and power. Which is why so many women like the control they get in the church. They can run to the bishop to get their guy disciplined if he looks at porn or whatever.
Anyway, welcome to the club, and to reality.