I'll forth cheating, lying, stealing, hiding, drinking (alcoholics), and not enough - or the wrong kind of - adventures, hobbies, attitudes, drugs, positive thinking, friends, passion, etc. Not necessarily in that order.
Also differences. Some people treat people differently… and expect (have) to/ (should) be treated differently.
Sometimes, to be hurtful, people say things they don't mean. Don't say things you don't mean because sometimes when you put something out there, it can be near impossible to take back. No amount of apologies can ease the sting and the hurt.
My ex was more blatant than most. When his alcoholic GF couldn't keep a job, because of her drinking, he invited her to stay with us "just until she gets back on her feet."
This was in 1986 and she is still with him. My son says that they seem more like housemates, rather than a married couple. He visited them at Christmas, and says that their relationship seems pitifully empty.
Insecurity. Not feeling comfortable in your own skin and putting up walls so no one, not even the person you love, will see your true self, of whom you are deeply ashamed.
montanadude Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Relationship killers include canoeing, tandem > bikes and teaching someone to golf.
Haha I will remember this, everybody does that golf thing.
montanadude Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Relationship killers include canoeing, tandem > bikes and teaching someone to golf.
Hahahahaha! Canoeing was so bad with DH that I thanked God when we drove into a low parking structure that ripped them both off the top of the car. Passers by got a good laugh.
Nonsupport of the wife and kids. starts with monetary support and could grow to include checking out from the household...disappearing into his own world to indulge his own hobbies at the expense of the family.
As I've posted previously, a partner who has a highly-developed need for precision... Which they bring to the relationship & demand from partner (common to Mormonism!)... Is asking to end the relationship.