Posted by:
exminion
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Date: March 23, 2018 05:27PM
I looked back, at various turning-points in my life, and I was able to actually re-do some of the things I wish I had done differently. Maybe it's not too late, people!
I wished I had not married my abusive husband, who beat me, and wished I had married my old boyfriend, instead. I was crying, and wishing I could die, when suddenly I realized that I had some control over my own life, so I un-did the marriage, got a divorce. I honestly thought I would never get married again (one of many Mormon threats was that no one wanted a divorced woman, who was "used goods"). Still, I had a career, that was under my control. I was one who DID buy some of that valuable Silicon Valley stock, from the company I worked for!
Life is a mix of good and bad. My famous uncle always told us, "Change is always good." It was those times I thought outside the box, that I was able to take a giant leap forward. Deciding to leave the cult is such a change.
I regret that my children had to suffer Mormon abuse. I knew I couldn't go back in time and change that. I knew the Mormon leaders who bullied and beat my sons would never be punished. What could I do? I could take my children out of harm's way! When I told them we were resigning from the cult, they cried for joy.
If we don't learn from history, we are bound to repeat it.
My children avoided marrying bullies, criminals, or fanatics, because I personally investigated each person they dated--using the same techniques in checking resumes and interviewing potential employees at work.
We didn't immediately join another religion or group.
My children and grandchildren will never go to BYU.
They will never go on missions.
They will (hopefully) never be abused.
They will be loved and nurtured by me, and by other good people in our lives.
Well, you get what I'm saying. Take the lessons from the past, and move forward with it.
Oh, and after working several years at the Silicon Valley job, my old boyfriend came back to me, and we got married and had children. It was not too late for that, either.