Posted by:
exminion
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Date: March 15, 2018 04:25PM
I also married and divorced a BYU Mormon, from a fanatic TBM family. We lived in the same ward as his parents, for 14 years, and had children. During our entire marriage, he cheated on me, without my suspecting anything. Early in the marriage, my ex-husband found out that Mormonism is a hoax, so he became permanently "inactive." His TBM family blamed ME for that, even though the children and I were still active.
Mormons are experts at denial and blame. When my husband left me and moved in with one of his women, his TBM parents blamed me. They denied that their son could do anything wrong. Mormons in our ward made comments that maybe I wasn't giving my husband enough sex. "Blame the woman" seems to be the SOP for Mormons. When the children and I moved away, to start a new life back in my hometown, near my own family, near my old employer, near my friends, his parents told friends in our old ward that I had deserted my ex! I had to concentrate on helping my children heal, and to live a life as a single mom, and I was far away, so I didn't waste my time and energy in trying to change anyone's mind about me. I just cut my losses.
Well, remembering, I did try at first to keep contact with my in-laws, for the sake of the children, but nasty insults from my ex MIL stopped me in my tracks. I did keept a few good non-Mormon friends from that neighborhood, but I never heard from the Mormons. My children's grandparents, 3 aunts and uncles,the my ex sisters-in-law and my ex-husband's sister, my children's cousins there, had no contact with me or the children. Not even a Christmas card.
Yes, it hurt very much! But, that's the Mormon cult for you. I never wanted to get married again.
Years later, my reputation is golden, in the larger non-Mormon world. It had to be, for my business and as mother of my children. I do think it helped to resign from the cult (when I discovered all the lies) with my children, and immediately join a Christian church, and do volunteer work there.
When the in-laws died, the family members didn't want me at the funeral because my ex's new wife was jealous (the ex was still cheating, on her, now), so my children flew out alone. It was a bad experience, but helped them realize that nothing had been their fault, and that their father's TBM family are mostly nutzo-crazies. If you have no children, you would be wise to not bother with your ex-in-laws at all, in the future.
My children all married wonderful non-Mormons, and have houses close by, with children of their own. They have seen their father a few times, on their own, but he has never reached out to connect with them. When his parents died, he was dis-inherited, and the children, along with him. He lives with his wife, in a dirty, run-down house full of dogs. His wife is probably the meanest, nastiest daughter-in-law that I could wish upon my ex-inlaws!
Believe in Karma! What goes around comes around.
Logically, you don't need to care what CRAZY people think of you. Most Mormons aren't in reality, anyway. They think JS and his polygamy, polyandry, statutory rape, lies, cons, and crimes were fine-and-dandy! Whatever atrocities need to be done to preserve the Mormon church, are just fine! Including dumping your wife--that's fine, too!
Congratulations on moving away from all the craziness that is Provo, Utah! You are exactly where you need to be, right now. time, love, family, and friends will help prove to you that you are WORTH LOVING! Don't let the Mormons defeat you!