Posted by:
exminion
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Date: April 19, 2018 08:19PM
Yes--but...
At their worst, the Mormons have never mistreated us as badly as when we were members! The demands, forced callings, priesthood leaders breaking into our house to hit, kick, and drag my sons to meetings, never taking "no" for an answer, marginalizing me for being a single divorced working mother, yet pandering me because I could play the organ.
You will face ugly situations after you leave the Mormon cult. Don't take it personally (though it is very personal), but Mormons are fulfilling their own prophesies: Outer darkness, and separation from family. When I didn't suffer, like the Mormons wanted me to, they THREATENED me! They said that I would fail financially, that I would get sicker, that my children would fail in life, and that our family would break up, bla-bla.
Several groups of men came to my door late at night, in groups of two and three, when we were first inactive. The truth was, they desperately needed an organist. They even tried to manipulate me into teaching organ lessons for free in the ward (after the nasty way they were treating me--not!) When I listened to the nasty threats and looked at their faces, I realized that these creeps WANTED these bad things to happen to us.
DUH...it took me a while to understand that anyone who wants bad things to happen to you is your--(bugle fanfare)--enemy! I had to have a psychiatrist tell me that my brothers and sister-in-law did not love me, like they pretended to. Mormons think their rude behavior is "provoking one to righteousness" or "tough love." My psychiatrist says it isn't about the target (you) as much as it is all about them and their cult.
I no longer have any contact with the meanest of my TBM family members. I have limited, "walking on egg shells" contact with the rest. I try to concentrate on what we all have in common--family, fun, common interests, sports, movies, etc. My children and I don't drink or smoke or do any of the perceived "rebellious anti-Mormon" stuff. We believe in God and Christ, and put family and integrity first.
You seem like a "good" person. You let your integrity go ahead and shine! Don't back down. You don't have to criticize and complain, but just stand your ground that a lie is a lie, and that you refuse to support Mormonism.
Listen to your children. You don't need much advice on what to say to them, because the Truth is on your side. Children are wiser than Mormons think they are, and if you just listen, they will tell you that the different JS stories about magic rocks and golden plates don't make sense. They automatically cringe at the thought of Polygamy. They cower at the thought of "bearing testimony" and crying in front of other people. They naturally question authority. Not-yet-brainwashed children have a truer insight that your wife and sisters have.
Children are more likely to listen to their heart. If something seems creepy, they run away! Allow them to do this, and to tell you all about it!
Give your children the one thing the cult will never give them: UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Accept them for who they are, encourage them, help them love themselves.
The odds are in your favor. Most children leave the Mormon cult if just one of their parents leaves. The cult knows it's in danger of losing all of your children and their future progeny (and their tithing money), and not just you. That's why their response is so very EXTREME, when members leave.