Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: May 18, 2018 03:48PM
Welcome to RFM, Scoates!
You are a true hero to stand by your daughter!
I left the Mormon cult (yes it is a CULT) one Saturday morning, when I sat my children down at the breakfast table, and asked them directly, "Why do you hate church so much?" I had to make sure they knew I was on their side, that I loved them unconditionally, and that I would listen, and not get angry. You see, the children's Mormon leaders made them believe that as a Mormon parent, I would reject any complaints, and punish them for any questioning or rebellion against "The Church." Before my children would open up to me, I had to promise them I would not punish them. I had never punished them before, but the leaders had threatened them so severely, that they were afraid to talk to me. The leaders had also threatened punishment, and shunning. They had also threatened God's punishment! That's right, they threatened my children that God would withdraw His blessings from our entire family.
Mormonism is a cult based on fear and threats.
I can't imagine the courage it must take for a Mormon gay person to come out!
My children had been abused by our ward priesthood leaders! My little 10-year-old girl had been molested by the bishop's son, a creepy, repulsive high school senior. It happened at a ward campout, and there were witnesses! My daughter screamed, and other kids saw what was happening. The bishop threatened the kids that saw. He told them that there would be no more campouts and no more ward activities and that my daughter and the witnesses would be to blame for this. Everyone would hate them. He told my daughter that the molestation was HER FAULT (she was asleep when it happened), and that I as her Mormon parent, would ground her and punish her.
My sons had been assaulted, kicked, hit, and shoved, when priesthood leaders came into our (unlocked) house, and pulled them out of bed to go to meeting. At meeting, my boys were ridiculed for looking disheveled. They threatened my sons, telling them if they told me, I would be angry that they were sleeping in and missing the meetings. This happened several times, and I didn't know about it, because I was already at church, playing the organ. My children were and are good kids. Actually, no child deserves to be bullied and abused to this extreme, by strangers.
I still believed in Mormonism at the time, but it took me only those few minutes of Truth at the Saturday breakfast table, for me to tell my children, "You never have to go there again!" We were all crying. I'm a single mother, when we stopped attending (and I quit being their organist and paying tithing), the Mormons harassed us, banging on our door in groups of 2 and 3, late at night. I found RFM, and discovered that we could actually resign--most Mormons don't know this--and we formally resigned, together.
Mormons have a way of interfering in parent-child relationships. (Have you ever heard: "The Bishop is the father of the ward?" The cult makes the rules for raising children, and the parents obey these rules. Mormonism was causing a rift between me and my children. After we left the cult, we went to the Lutheran Church, and sometimes the Presbyterian Church. The boys joined a scout troop, sponsored by both churches. Other religions didn't make us argue. We are closer than ever, now.
Sorry for the rant.
Most of Mormonism is in direct opposition to Christ's teachings.
Where is the Love?