Posted by:
Houlder
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Date: August 15, 2018 03:53PM
First sorry for my english.
I Have had a hard time with my BIL over a period of 11 years. Caught him cheating my sister once and he has been neglecting family and letting other people in family do what he should be doing as a grown man. He has turned holidays into emotional slug fests and created rifts between people doing their best to have a relationship with him. He have kids but lives like he still are single and a reckless young man. He drinks daily and sometimes combine it with medication. He chat with people online and end up fighting online with people on social media that threatens to come home to him and turn his house upside down and fight him. He got kids and I do not think it is appropriate arguing with unstable people when he should be more protective and sheltering.
Earlier this year I cut contact with him I could not go on living with a person respecting people so little and being so reckless.
I fought hard against my principle that I would not abandon him. The christian sense of duty was strong in this one. But I could not go on I had to make a choice because I was heavily codependent.
Today I heard that he caught dementia and maybe it explain why he has been so reckless and clueless over the past years.
I have no clue where to go from here. Put in so much energy and walked to many egg shells to feel any urgency now to be present.
This situation really sucks.
Have you been in a similar situation?