Posted by:
exminion
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Date: September 07, 2018 06:43AM
My bishop was a sociopath. He had failed in several different jobs, and was given a job in the COB, and was a former mission president. His wife called him "President", when she mentioned him in her talks or RS lessons. His wife was beautiful, nice, and talented, and she asked if she could join me and another lady in our ward on our hikes. She also asked me to accompany her and help her with her singing, as she had given that up, for many years. She lost weight, and sang solos with our ward and stake choirs. Her husband the bishop did not like her performing, and made her stop. He also made her stop hiking with us. He and the stake president ordered our neighborhood book club to read ONLY LDS-written Deseret books. I was an independent single woman, and he thought I was a bad influence on his wife, because I helped bring her out of her shell.
I lost my temple recommend at the temple, and almost had to miss my niece's wedding, but the temple worker called the bishop, and he verified that I really did have a recommend.
A few months later, the bishop made an appointment for me to go into his office, and he would not tell me why, and he made a big deal out of it. IN his office, he acted arrogant, like he had all the power, and he asked me if I had been attending the temple regularly. He thought he had backed me into a corner, but I answered honestly that I had lost my temple recommend, and had not gone to the temple for several months. He gave me a smug grin, and pulled my recommend out of his drawer, telling me he had had it the whole time. Someone had found it in the temple that day, and had turned it in. I said, "Thank you, and reached for it, and he pulled it away, and said, "I think I'll keep this in my drawer for a while. You haven't been paying a full tithing." I said that I thought the recommend was good for one year, but he said he had the authority to judge my worthiness, and he was not going to give my recommend back to me. I said, "Well, I guess I can't go to the temple, then, right? So, what's the point in paying tithing."
I think that bishop was angry at me, because I had no respect for him. We had been in the same line of work, and I (a lowly female) made a whole lot more money than he did, all on my own, with no husband to help support me and my kids. His kids were having bad problems. He was in debt, borrowing money from church members. Our house was much nicer than his, and we had lived here longer than he had. I'm sure it shook his faith that my family was so much more "blessed" than his family. After all, they were so much more "temple worthy".
Three years after we resigned, the bishop's wife fell into a deep depression, and she had to be hospitalized, and put onto heavy medication. He lost his house in foreclosure, and moved away.
Sorry to digress--but a TR can definitely be used as a weapon in a power struggle!