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mykidistrans
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Date: September 11, 2018 11:33PM
It's been about two months since my child came out to me, and now she's coming out to the family...some via FB posts. Yikes!
I'd told her that I wouldn't out her to anyone in the family. I wasn't expecting coming out via social media. After the FB post, I've been helping manage the family's reactions but not much. Here's an example.
I call my father about once a week. My dad always asks how my child is doing. Dad is on FB, but he's mainly there to share genealogy stuff. I told my father that my daughter is trans, and my father said he was surprised BUT there are so many people who come out later in life that he thinks sooner is better than later.
After I regained consciousness and verified that the person on the phone was in fact my father, he asked me what name to use, and I told him her new name and that it's cool to go back and forth between names until we get used to it.
According to Dad, one of my brothers emailed our father and told him to look at my daughter's FB page. I'm not sure if my father did, but he's kind of a quiet guy. My takeaway is that Dad is supportive, but my brother might not be. I let my daughter know that Granddad is onboard. They've talked since, but the matter did not come up.
I have another brother who is close to my daughter's age. They basically grew up together, and they treat each other more like siblings than as uncle and nephew. My daughter called this brother before the FB post. This brother might not be as super duper religious as I had thought because he is totally supportive of my daughter. Good.
I haven't heard about my other relatives' reactions. Her father hasn't responded to a PM she sent him (we're divorced, and she doesn't have his phone number). She chose her paternal grandmother's name as her new name, and her grandmother died a few days ago. They'll (father and daughter) see each other at the funeral. My daughter doesn't present as female at work, and I seriously doubt she's going to at the funeral. Part of me wants to ask her if she is, but I'm afraid I'll hurt and/or insult her. I often remind myself that I have an adult child and I need to let her do the adulting on her own.
My daughter's birthday is coming up. I've jumped on the Korean skin care routine (not all 10 steps, though), and I also love a line of hair products by Shu Uemura. Guess what my daughter is getting for her birthday? Over-priced beauty products consisting of snail goo and whatnot! (I'm kidding about the snail serum - I can't go there - but I am not kidding about the ridiculously expensive and likely unnecessary stuff I bought her.)
She is so so so happy. I think the last time I saw her this happy was when she was eight and we went to Disney World and had every. single. character sign her Disney™ autograph book.
That's the haps.
Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 09/11/2018 11:38PM by mykidistrans.