Date: October 10, 2018 09:43PM
I'm sad to say we get posts like yours fairly often.
My situation was very similar to yours.
It took me a LONG time to catch on.
My husband was busy with his practice trying to play along and slowly educate me.
Here is a thread you might find interesting.https://www.exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,2043767,2043767#msg-2043767
This could go many ways. Take your time. Your wife has to slowly come to terms with someone questioning her world view.
Will she simmer with passive aggressiveness?
will she keep blaming herself?
Will she fall out of love with you (because it was church-dependent)?
Will she roll with it and figure God will sort it out because you are a good person?
Will she buy a vowel and see though it herself at some point?
Whatever you do and whatever happens, know it is not your fault for being honest. It's not your fault you woke up to the nonsense. It's hard to go through life with someone in a faith bubble but it is possible. At some point she might recognize how lucky she is that she married you. She might not be able deal with it. Time will tell.
There is no right way to deal with this. Once you see, you can't un-see.
Good luck! I hope your wife is a reader!