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Lowpriest
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Date: January 31, 2019 04:52PM
A while after I embraced rejection of mormon claims a question slowly formed in my subconscious. Recently it has been nagging me more directly, and I thought I would see if you all had a similar experience. The question goes like this, "How in the hell did I miss the red flags!"
There were dozens or scores of obvious problems that I let slip by without significant scrutiny. When I did notice something, I took a defensive posture.
For example, the wizened stake patriarch opened my blessing by announcing that, "Now lowpriest, you are the oldest in your family, and so...." You see, my older sister was sitting in the same room at the time. Huh. Well, here is how I looked at it then:
1) Maybe he meant that I was the oldest son. Since priesthood holders apparently counted more than girls, perhaps her age was not considered. Sorry, I actually thought that at the time. I have since repented of it. Damn mormon thinking still screws with my vocabulary, but you get the idea.
2) Maybe I was spiritually older, whatever the hell that meant. Yep, I actually considered that the stake patriarch may have known something that I didn't know about myself. God
thought that I was special.
3) Maybe I was older because I joined the church first. Right. That would explain it.
4) Maybe it was a mystery that I was not intended to understand.
5) Maybe he meant to say it, knowing that it was wrong, to see if I would be faithfull and obedient. I had recently learned that if we followed the prophet then we would be blessed, even if he was wrong, although he probably never would be wrong on anything that mattered.
6) Maybe I heard incorrectly. This would require his wife who transcribed the recording and everyone else in the room to have heard wrong, too, but it could happen.
7) Perhaps the word "older" actually meant "wiser" or something else that I needed to learn.
8) Maybe he just misspoke and it didn't matter. Maybe he meant to say that I was "not" older and just did not include the word.
9) Perhaps that one line needed to be considered in the broader context of the blessing, which somehow made the statement correct in concept if not in actual fact. Maybe the Lord intended for me to act like I was older.
10) Even if the patriarch really thought that I was older, the other stuff in the blessing was probably spot-on. Why was I focusing on one error when everything else was true? If I was faithful wouldn't it all become true?
Well, in my mental gymnastics I scored a perfect 10, didn't I? Even stuck the landing... "Doubt your doubts before you doubt your faith," had not been spoken from the pulpit yet, but apparently I got it. Like I said, I could list dozens of errors that I defended. Why? Red pill, baby. At some level I had bought in. Drank the kook aid. (Apologies to the real product's company. When auto correct replaced kool with kook I decided that it was a better fit.) Pick your own metaphor.
Of course, once I removed faith (the other F word) all of these defenses fell like the house of cards that they are. Its a wonder that it took as long as it did. I think that I really wanted it to be true. You gotta want it or it doesn't work.
Thoughts?
What examples do you have?