Posted by:
janeeliot
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Date: March 08, 2019 01:06AM
Wow.
I was forced from my home (melodramatic version) or I had to leave home for expensive and toxic repairs (realistic version) and came back to find I couldn't comment on my own thread, "Following the Catholic Church sex scandal -- right or wrong?"
Soooooooo
I guess I am pleased it set off such a lively discussion -- and I think SOME of it was productive, especially as the thread went on and it wasn't just the same two posters relitigating cold cases.. Or at least it seemed so to me.
A few responses -- summer -- thank you thank you thank you for getting it. Coming to your first response was like coming across an oasis in the desert. PG Wodehouse would have called it "rare and refreshing fruit." But then he was like that. :)
Another random response -- I was taught that stressing the ROMAN Catholic Church or *R*CC was part and parcel of classic 19th century anti-Catholicism. It makes it seem foreign -- and suspicious. In this country, it is the American Catholic Church for the simple reason that it is more accurate -- and also because it is less freighted with historic conflicts between Rome and the world -- especially the Anglican world. But this could just be me, my education. It is RCC in some articles that are solid, for example in the NYT. SO THERE'S THAT.
Some brought up that many Catholics stay and some wondered what their stories were. Well, god bless google, you can find that, too.
https://georgiabulletin.org/commentary/2018/08/why-im-not-leaving-the-catholic-church/https://international.la-croix.com/news/why-i-cannot-even-think-about-leaving-the-catholic-church/8478A word of caution -- there are an estimated 1.3 billion Catholics. Any generalizing about millions -- let alone billions -- of people speaking hundreds of languages and living in thousands of disparate cultures is doomed to bubbling vaporizing -- at best. I don't think we can really know why some leave and some stay. We can only know the stories that get told -- and maybe that should inspire us to tell our post-Mormon stories. Perhaps there are as many stories of leaving -- or staying -- as there are Catholics. As a lifelong reader and a writer, I hope so.
If so many leave either the Mormons or the Catholics are forced to seriously restructure, then we have something. I guess.
And without a shred of proof I just have a hunch that more simple wander away from Catholicism than will decisively leave over this particular crisis.
One recurring theme in these threads is that abuse is widespread -- period -- in the world -- period -- so is this different? Is it the same as the abuse in the schools -- or other churches -- etc.?
That is legitimate to wonder about -- but I have a few reasons to think even if not unique, this abuse seems beyond the average school district problem.
The FBI and the federal government are investigating sex abuse in the Catholic Church, for one thing. That is rare, to say the least. As I understand it, the concern is that the cover-ups amount to conspiracy? I am not sure. They are not investigating public schools -- probably because there is no evidence of a concerted cover-up to protect offending teachers -- not anywhere I am aware of.
The sheer numbers involved are daunting. In the Pennsylvania diocese alone, we are talking about hundreds of perpetrators and thousands of victims. Again -- I am not aware of those numbers in any one school district. And worst of all, the whole stinking mess was concealed -- from parishioners, from the general public, from the police, from the press, from the world which might have applied the antiseptic of sunlight.
Although it seems a waste of holy pixels to me, I suppose it must be said -- of course there are other cases of abuse. Some churches ARE abuse -- the People's Temple anyone? Scientology? I have heard both mentioned on the boards for the same reason -- they call to mind the ways the Mormon Church can and does screw up.
I think blaming Catholic lay people is evil -- as blaming the victim always is. I realize most priest are not implicated -- yet I still like the one I posted, the one who even though he had never covered anything up, took some responsibility. Taking responsibility -- I dunno -- isn't that what Jesus would have at least suggested? Just wondering.
I am glad that the consensus of opinion seemed to be that this is appropriate for this board. It is about RECOVERING from Mormonism -- and in my humble opinion you are not recovered until you get over Mormon specialness -- and that can include the claim that you uniquely suffer. Realizing that other have faced terrible dilemmas about religion -- and ultimately solved them -- one way or another -- can be a healthy part of solving your own.