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Date: April 19, 2019 08:49AM
and I can see this is a continuation of your thread:
https://www.facebook.com/582882635120303/videos/315870732661069/UzpfSTEwMDAwODM3MDU4MTY1NDoyMzE5NTQ1NDA1MDAxMTIz/I thought this was an excellent example of what you are expressing.
Even if I can forgive my parents for what damage they did, there are still reasons I am who I am and it is because of things they did. I want my brother to find peace. My older brother has. My younger brother is my rock. He is the one person in this life I trust 100% and always will. I helped take care of him while my parents were busy taking care of our brother who was 3 years older than him. He called me mom. For myself, I can give him and I did give him, all the love I can to try to heal the pain he has lived through and still does at age 50.
I can't say I was a perfect parent by far. I can't even say I did the best I could, but my kids always knew I loved them. I didn't beat them and I didn't blame them for what was going on in my life. My brothers and myself made sure we didn't repeat our parents' behavior.
Oddly enough, though, when my son wasn't doing well in school. He is extremely bright, but found many school classes boring. On-line school would have been perfect for him. But it was my dad who told me to go easy on him, something my own dad didn't do. He must have learned something along the way. My son graduated. Now I have had to be patient and still just love him and he has come so far. Still a ways to go. He has stopped drinking, doing drugs, got off the medication that helped him beat the drugs all by himself. No rehab as I can't afford it. And he wouldn't ask me. He started drugs after his wife left him. And I'm sure his childhood didn't help.
My ex didn't beat the children, but he did abandon them and I mean abandon them. I hate it when people say divorce doesn't hurt the children. I've watched. I've seen what it does. Each kid reacts differently. My children are always testing their dad to see if he will reject them again. My ex's abuse to the children was emotional.