Posted by:
praydude
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Date: September 14, 2019 08:09PM
I have noticed a behavioral pattern among the TBM elements of my own family. I’m not really sure if it is the same for all TBM’s but it seems to hold true in my mormon family members. I have found it very difficult for the mormons I know to admit they were ever wrong...about most things. Math problems and trivia questions are not what I’m talking about here but rather the big decisions in life like whether to go on a mission or whom to marry.
Since mormons pray about most decisions it seems that the fault of a bad choice is placed on God’s shoulders and not on the individual who prayed for the answer. This makes it difficult for the person to admit that any wrong-doing ever happened because it was god’s decision and not their own. Obviously bad choices are explained away as “lessons” that god wanted them to learn or something like that. Mormons who tow the line and stay in the cult seem to have this puffed up sense of pride like they know exactly what to do in most situations and their desicions are not able to be questioned or held up to scrutiny.
What this seems to do over time (years and years) is it slows down the emotional (and possibly the academic) growth a person would normally have. Without ever owning the repercussions of one’s own decisions also means that no growth takes place because no learning has happened. It takes mistakes in order to learn and grow. For people who don't learn from their mistakes logical thought processes are truncated; emotional maturity remains stagnant.
Think about the mormons in your family or others that you have known. Do they seem to be more child-like in some way? My mom is a life-long TBM who is now 78 and she acts like a 15-year-old girl. She always has. Never once owned any of the mistakes she has made or acknowledged any wrong-doing in her past. She has a TON of excuses but no real ownership on her own part in the way decisions were handled.
It seems that it is a part of mormon culture to become “child-like”. Such behavior is actually desired in mormon circles. Scriptures suggest that one must be like a child in order to go to heaven.
No mistakes means no growth. No growth means no personality. Older mormons seem to turn into.simple-minded drones.
Just my opinion anyway.