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Tevai
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Date: September 22, 2019 07:18PM
Ted Wrote:
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> Do you get to choose who you will be when you are
> reincarnated?
This is a really good question....and I don't know if it has ever been effectively answered.
What appears to be "an" answer is that there are always a number of different factors in play, some of them possibly unexpected [this happened to me, in this present life of mine], and probably, for everyone: It "depends."
Every person has their own Long History: the cumulative "record" of that person's lives [plural], going back to all of their previous lifetimes.
Every person has their own group of people who have, amongst themselves, relationships, of one kind or another with each other (marriage relationships, parental or offspring or other family relationships, mentor relationships, any important other relationships of any kind--which could even be as a neighbor, or a co-worker, or a member of the community in some cases--or a person you either did, or did not, choose to help when they obviously needed help).
Every person has, over the course of their Long History, developed certain things they like and/or are very good at, and other things they don't like and/or are very bad at, as well as strong interests or talents of one kind or another: intellectual, musical, scientific, athletic, as a mother, as a warrior....whatever.
Every person has areas where they either need to grow, or where they want (and sometimes want very vehemently) to grow.
Every person has traits which they either want to strengthen, or they SHOULD want to strengthen (even if they don't really want to do this at all!).
And every person has (in a particular life, or in a former life or lives) places where they have messed up badly, where they need to learn how to behave, or how to be conscientious, or how to be caring (could be as part of a one-on-one relationship, could be when it comes to strangers, could be in regard to a nation full of people that person is somehow responsible for as an elected, or appointed, or a born official).
There are also far too many instances where someone has been a victim (they were a slave or something akin to a slave, or they were previously murdered, or stolen from, or abused), where there is learning needed by both the victim and also by the previous abuser.
"Mix" all of those (and undoubtedly many other) realities together with the actual available circumstances at a particular instant in time (which usually means: a baby is in utero or a baby is being born), and what generally happens to most people is that they come out of the birth canal into a family, and a community, and into circumstances, which are (for actual reasons) appropriate for them.
They won't necessarily get all of what they might want in that particular lifetime, but they will usually get a variety of opportunities, challenges, and character leanings which will (ideally) teach them what they need to learn, or to do, to mitigate their personal challenges for the present, and also for future lives, and allow them to take advantage of some of the easier, and more fulfilling, parts of life they are most suited for, on a variety of levels.
Sometimes this doesn't always work exactly like the above explanation.
I am (and my mother heartily agreed) the second person in this body (to my Mom's great relief). Evidently, the first person in to this body came in with the goal of killing my mother for something which took place between them long ago, but after being born into this body I have now, this person had "second thoughts" about the wisdom of doing this, and that person wanted out--which probably is an indication that they had learned the lesson they came in to learn.
At that "same" time (given that the concept of time itself is a bit slippery here), I (in my previous life; I was a Dutch wife and mother) was in a "personal" situation which was horrific to the point of being beyond horrific. In that situation, I did something I had to do....and, afterwards I just walked out of that building and started walking, to "nowhere," because I was, I am sure, literally out of my mind at that particular moment. I was walking where I shouldn't have been walking, and three guards came up behind me and began betting with each other who was going to kill me, and then they shot me in the head as I was walking, and I died instantly.
After that, there was the "time in between" where I found myself "floating" in this wonderful, safe, warm (I wasn't at all cold anymore!) darkness....
....and then, I "woke up" in what was now MY crib, with warm, bright sunlight streaming in through the window, and this strange woman came in to my bedroom and started talking to me in what I thought, for awhile, was really awful Dutch.
I gradually came to realize that this was now my mother, and I gradually came to realize that I was in Los Angeles....and that, for many of the really important things I most wanted to have available to me ("learning," first and foremost), I had "landed" in what I still consider to be "the" "perfect" place, and the perfect family situation, for me.
It wasn't the perfect family on a whole lot of levels, but over all, the pluses vastly outnumbered the minuses.
Most people have some kind of prior connections, of some kind or another, with at least some of the people who are in their families, and in their communities. In my case, I was a total stranger to them, and they were strangers to me, but over the years we kind of got used to each other to a large extent....and, in the end, I think my Mom came to respect me.
Looking back, my present life family of birth--for all of its many deficiencies in so many different areas--was PERFECT for me, and for the many different goals I came in to accomplish, and I am very grateful for the oftentimes unusual experiences, and the knowledge, and the many rare and unusual opportunities I gained, from these total strangers who became, as a surprise to ALL of us, my new relatives.
In the end, I got one of the all-time great lives, and I am enormously grateful to every one of my relatives who made this life I am living now possible.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 09/22/2019 07:30PM by Tevai.