Posted by:
Recovered Molly Mo
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Date: October 12, 2019 01:16PM
My adult daughter came out to me last night.
She handed me a small note attached to a rainbow themed gift that said "I don't believe anyone should HAVE to come out, but I wanted you to know. I love you, your daughter"
I stood up and cried and hugged her a long time. I told her "Baby, I already knew years ago, I just figured you would speak it on your own time".
She beamed and said "Yeah I figured you did, because you felt the need to have that convo with me years ago".
On a road trip, I had my clues that my daughter was not attracted to boys/men and told her that if that was the case, I wanted her to know that I accepted her for no matter what.
She said that gave her the courage to be more open and while it didn't change a thing, because she knows she can trust me and love her no matter what. I was honored. She wanted to share this with me privately and not via a Facebook post.
I have a dozen questions, but told her it was not the time for that, but we are getting together next weekend to express those thoughts on both sides.
I hugged her and kissed her and took her face and said I was always proud to be her Mommy, her Mom and now her friend. That I love her more than life itself and who ever she brought in her life was always welcome in mine.
I am so proud of my daughter for feeling confident in who she is and how she wants to live her life. She said it was because I helped empower her to be her genuine self.
Leaving Mormonism and my dysfunctional married did what I always hoped for my kids. It made them understand that being a part of someone else's rule and dreams was madness.
My heart also aches for her, because I know not all of our family members will understand and accept her. But she feels strong enough to handle it and I told her I have her back because no one messes with my baby..even if she is an adult.
I've always been so proud of my kids and now I have even more reason to shine, because in the face of adversity I have taught them to love themselves and live authentic lives.
I have a lot of racing thoughts, but I wanted to share in a safe place while our family navigates the rest....
RMM