Posted by:
exminion
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Date: October 26, 2019 01:27AM
Save your children!
I have gone into the details here many times, so I won't repeat them, but my children were physically abused by the Priesthood leaders (grown men, and fathers who also beat their own children.) The bishop's high school senior son molested my little pre-teen daughter at a church camp-out, and when she screamed, many children caught him in the act--and they all were threatened by the bishop to keep silent! My daughter was afraid to tell me, and she didn't until several years later.
This happened to my children! I was a single mother, so maybe these cowards would not have supported the child-abusers, if there had been a husband in my house to protect them. If you leave your wife, the chances of child abuse will increase.
First of all, don't buy into the Mormon "Authority" BS. Those men you mentioned and their "callings" are no measure of anything non-Mormons can relate to. They have no authority from God, and certainly no authority to tell God what to do! Mormon male arrogance can reach the level of insanity!
I'm glad your children heard what was going on. They might start getting a clue about how crazy their cult is. My children knew, before I realized it, and they led me out. Give your children credit.
Have you ever asked them, in a non-threatening way, promising to keep their secrets, "What do you think of church?" Don't put any words in their mouth. Be perfectly neutral. Just LISTEN to what they tell you! Fortunately, my children were not yet brainwashed, and they did more than just repeat the same memorized Primary chants at me.
Here's my advice. I have been there. Be sweet and apologetic to your wife, right now--go in there and promise her any lies she wants to hear. Lying is her way of life, so don't feel guilty in lying right back at her!
After she is settled down, go to a good NOT-MORMON attorney, and prepare for your divorce. Decide just how much money you are willing to give her. Hide some of your assets, if you need to, so you will have that money for the kids college, down the road. Ask your attorney what you can do to get maximum custody of the kids. (Half might be the maximum, depending on your state.) Seriously, have everything in writing, and ready to go.
I like Cl2's stand, and also Susan I/S.
After you have protected yourself and secured your children's financial future, you then approach your wife with some hard truths,
1--Yes, about those singles dances, and the single available Mormon men! Most have been indoctrinated in a polygamous, woman-demeaning cult, and they make terrible husbands and terrible friends, unless they become un-brainwashed, somehow. IMO, these make terrible step-fathers, too. Almost every second-marriage to a Mormon has failed. Your wife will be in Hell, with Mormons insisting that she get married again, Mormons setting her up with all kinds of degenerates--anyone--to take her back to the temple.
2--Your wife will become that dreaded divorced single mother, at the bottom of the social ladder. She will be marginalized. Her couples friends won't invite her places. Her friends won't want a single woman talking to their husband. Oh yeah, it's bad.
3--Your children will be marginalized. They will be "those kids from a broken home", and looked upon as charity cases.
4--Your children will be taught that they are "lesser beings", and will not be in the CK with their family. My children were taught that they and their siblings and I would "pass by each other as strangers" in the Hereafter. How horrible! This caused nightmares, and tears, until I explained that it was all made up to scare people into paying money for the temple.
5--Statistics show that children who have ONE of their parents leave the Mormon cult, grow up to leave the cult at least 80% of the time. A divorce will seal the deal for them to leave in safety and with your love and support--and they will jump at that deal! The Mormons know your children will leave, and that is why they fight so hard, and so dirty.
6--Do you notice that Mormons never talk about LOVE? You know your wife doesn't love you unconditionally--she will divorce you if you even begin to speak the truth. IMO, she's incapable of loving her children unconditionally. Russ Nelson says that unconditional love is anti-Christian! You and your children are in a cult of hate, my friend.
7--This is a possibility--maybe your wife and her parents and her OBGYN, her Bishop, her Stake President, and her Authority guy already have a new temple husband all picked out for her, already! This has happened before. Do your detective work, and research these men, and others in the ward.
8--Although you need to cover your back, and prepare for divorce, you don't need to even mention it, if you don't want to divorce her. But, DO quit the cult, quietly, and politely, because it is your RIGHT to choose your own religion. Just do it. Take back your life. Offer your children a CHOICE, and refuse to punish them if they don't go to church. Stand up for your kids! They're worth so much more than 1 crazy Mormon mom. It's probably too late for her, anyway, but maybe not. Try this, and see how she reacts. Her overkill and her "enlisting" her Mormon army of Mormon authorities, is a sign of weakness and cowardice, like that other poster said.
9--Don't fight about religion, but don't support Mormonism, either. Don't encourage your kids to attend, but if they do go, don't fight about it. Don't pay tithing. Don't be there for their baptisms. Don't support a mission. Don't send them to church schools. Encourage participation in their own schools, sports, other shared interests. Give them a happy Sunday, before and after the meetings, and life will teach them that love and family and happiness happen outside of the control of Mormonism.
Good luck. Focus on your children, and being true to yourself, too. You can do both. But, maybe you can't do it all AND keep your wife.