I saw this article on MSN's website about a female CEO who posted a help wanted ad for a nanny that essentially would be a paid wife.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/markets/what-a-ceo-moms-viral-nanny-ad-says-about-gender-work-and-power/ar-BBZnJbC?li=BBnb7Kz

I thought kudos to her. There was a link to a 1971 essay in Ms. magazine where a female was musing about how nice it would be to have a wife. I read it and it sounds like Momo's expectations for a faithful momo wife today and it made me laugh! Here it is:

I Want a Wife

1- I belong to that classification of people known as wives. I am A Wife. And, not altogether incidentally, I am a mother.

2- Not too long ago a male friend of mine appeared on the scene fresh from a recent divorce. He had one child, who is, of course, with his ex-wife. He is looking for another wife. As I thought about him while I was ironing one evening, it suddenly occurred to me that 1, too, would like to have a wife. Why do I want a wife?

3- I would like to go back to school so that I can become economically independent, support myself, and, if need be, support those dependent upon me. I want a wife who will work and send me to school. And while I am going to school, I want a wife to take care of my children. I want a wife to keep track of the children's doctor and dentist appointments. And to keep track of mine, too. I want a wife to make sure my children eat
properly and are kept clean. I want a wife who will wash the children's clothes and keep them mended. I want a wife who is a good nurturant attendant to my children, who arranges for their schooling, makes sure that they have an adequate social life with their peers, takes them to the park, the zoo, etc. I want a wife who takes care of the children when they are sick, a wife who arranges to be around when the children need special care, because, of course, I cannot miss classes at school. My wife must arrange to lose time at work and not lose the job. It may mean a small cut in my wife's income from time to time, but I guess I can tolerate that. Needless to say, my wife will arrange and pay for the care of the children while my wife is working.

4- I want a wife who will take care of my physical needs. I want a wife who will keep my house clean. A wife who will pick up after my children, a wife who will pick up after me. I want a wife who will keep my clothes clean, ironed, mended, replaced when need be, and who will see to it that my personal things are kept in their proper place so that I can find what I need the minute I need it. I want a wife who cooks the meals, a wife
who is a good cook. I want a wife who will plan the menus, do the necessary grocery shopping, prepare the meals, serve them pleasantly, and then do the cleaning up while I do my studying. I want a wife who will care for me when I am sick and sympathize with my pain and loss of time from school. I want a wife to go along when our family takes a vacation so that someone can continue to care for me and my children when I need a rest and change of scene.

5- I want a wife who will not bother me with rambling complaints about a wife's duties. But I want a wife who will listen to me when I feel the need to explain a rather difficult point I have come across in my course studies. And I want a wife who will type my papers for me when I have written them.

6- I want a wife who will take care of the details of my social life. When my wife and I are invited out by my friends, I want a wife who will take care of the baby-sitting arrangements. When I meet people at school that I like and want to entertain, I want a wife who will have the house clean, will prepare a special meal, serve it to me and my friends, and not interrupt when I talk about things that interest me and my friends. I want a wife who will have arranged that the children are fed and ready for bed before my guests arrive so that the children do not bother us. I want a wife who takes care of the needs of my guests so that they feel comfortable, who makes sure that they have an ashtray, that they are passed the hors d'oeuvres, that they are offered a second helping of the food, that their wine glasses are replenished when necessary, that their coffee is served to them as they like it. And I want a wife who knows that sometimes I need a night out by myself.

7- I want a wife who is sensitive to my sexual needs, a wife who makes love passionately and eagerly when I feel like it, a wife who makes sure that I am satisfied. And, of course, I want a wife who will not demand sexual attention when I am not in the mood for it. I want a wife who assumes the complete responsibility for birth control, because I do not want more children. I want a wife who will remain sexually faithful to me
so that I do not have to clutter up my intellectual life with jealousies. And I want a wife who understands that my sexual needs may entail more than strict adherence to monogamy. I must, after all, be able to relate to people as fully as possible.

8- If, by chance, I find another person more suitable as a wife than the wife I already have, I want the liberty to replace my present wife with another one. Naturally, I will expect a fresh, new life; my wife will take the children and be solely responsible for them so that I am left free.

9- When I am through with school and have a job, I want my wife to quit working and remain at home so that my wife can more fully and completely take care of a wife's duties.

10- My God, who wouldn't want a wife?



Author: Judy Brady (Syfers)

Literature for Composition, (Third Edition)
Sylvan Barnet, Morton Berman, William Burto, Marcia Stubbs.
Copyright 1993
Publisher: HarperCollins Customs Books
Pages 775-776.

Source info is provided by Kara French. (Thank you Kara :-)


I would add that I want a wife who won't care when I have dumped her that she has no profession to make a living wage because she spent her time putting me through school and caring for me, my kids and my house, has no retirement, and no social security of her own.

When I attended BYU in the 70s, it seemed like most of the female students were majoring in how to be a wife (I think the actual course of study was called family relations and child rearing, or something like that). I can only assume it was the creation of men who wanted a steady supply of wives with the correct qualifications.



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Child Development & Family Relations is what I remember. I was asked to model in one of the upper class courses, "How to Handle Horny"; yeah, the infamous HHH class.

I had to wear dancers tights and the instructor made me stuff a pair of ski socks into the crotch... She said it would help keep the girls alert.

My Aunts called it getting their Mrs. Degree.

This almost sounds like a letter my now exHUB wrote.
When we were the worst on the rocks he told me once "If I could fire you; I would!"

I told him, "I quit, because the benefits suck and the boss is a tyrant". I had also told him that I would love to have MY OWN wife that loved me the way I once loved him.

He is still LDS and looking for an LDS wife according to our kids. Our son let me know that his singles ad reads more like a want ad for a slightly used car than looking for a relationship. It is more about what he wants than what he can offer.

So basically, nothing has changed. LOL

RMM

So he’s fishing in a fish hatchery but not getting a single nibble.

I have hopes of finding a female Life Partner but not a wife in the ^^^^^ above sense, I'll do my share of housework, loving, & most everything..

The PNW is a great place to live, I reside at the driest place in western wa, great hiking & biking, access to Seattle Symphony, the Mariners & Aquasox MLbaseball, lots of romantic islands, Canada is less than 2 hours away too.

I want one. How much do they cost ?

$115,432 would be her wages, according to Forbes.

Or $315 per day if there’s no time off. Sounds about right for legal prostitution.

Okay maybe not, though I had a marriage that felt like that.



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Of course, this assumes that wives are all wonderful, and husbands are jerks.

I'm thinking of a friend whose wife with her masters degree only wants to work at a job 12 hours a week, while he works more than full time. She spends most of her time reading books, while he has to do a lot of the housework and shopping and taking the kids to activities. She spends over $400 monthly hiring a maid to clean.

Also assumes that two women would get along in the house, and would be nice to each other. Which reminds me of the book, Woman's Inhumanity to Woman.

And of course, wives initiate about 70% of divorces, and then get your money and the kids.

Not that great a deal, as Dr. Helen Smith explains:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Klx1cfV-8b4

Please!

I don't want a husband either. I want a financially independent boy-toy. just as realistic as the paragon wife Judy Brady et al describe.

White picket fence, anyone?

I "get to" clean 2 houses and deal with their idiosyncrasies daily. Then I have my son.

My daughter gets a good laugh out of my situation. She says I have 3 intelligent and difficult guys I deal with daily and then they wonder why I need to be by myself a lot of the time. I also do the yard work.

I quit cleaning my boyfriend's house because he always nitpicked me to death and, after months of it not being deep cleaned (or cleaned much at all), he decided to pay me to clean his house.

Oh, I also have a job. Since I get SS now, I still work quite a bit because I get paid so poorly now doing medical transcription. I'm pretty much burned out these days.

And, Hervey, my husband wants what you want, but he seems to find only guys who don't have a job, who need someone to take care of them. But then my husband would be (and is according to old boyfriends) a difficult partner.

All my young life, all I wanted was a husband and kids. I was so very wrong.



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I’d like a few more husbands. Maybe, somewhere in the group, one would like my cooking.

doesn't. My family growing up loved my cooking and they still do. My daughter told me one year for her birthday (just recently) that she wanted me to cook for a week for her. My husband would get out every sauce in the refrigerator to put on his food. That is pretty much just him. Doesn't matter what he eats or where, he puts some sauces on his food.

My boyfriend likes to be the best cook in the room. He makes fun of funeral potatoes, but he can't stop eating them when I make them. So I don't cook for him. He cooks for us. It isn't like I think everything he makes is good either. My son likes my cooking, too.

My daughter in law doesn’t like to cook. I went to their new house a few months after they moved in. I said, “Well, let’s just heat up a pizza.” And I turned on the oven. A horrible stink and smoke came out. It was the instructions!

We laughed.

Wow! I think I'll apply!

Sounds like my dream job! Hope she'll let me bring my Hubby... ;)