This has nothing to do with religion, but my wife & teenage son are 100% dedicated morgbots - watched every second of conference as usual, and thought it was wonderful.

Today they decided (I guess joint decision) that I am no longer allowed to go anywhere and must literally "stay-at-home" until the Prez and governor and mayor and Prez Nelson and whoever, decide to end the "stay-at-home" thing.

I am allowed to get fresh air only in small back yard.

Since my wife is under 60, and I'm over 60, they just decided that all shopping will be once-a-week by her only, and never me.

Can I go walking around the neighborhood? NO they decided back yard only. I was told to never set foot out the front door until this social distancing thing is over. I'm inclined to walk around and stay 10 feet away from people. They said no- don't even think about it.

They hid all known car keys and won't reveal location, so there's no chance of driving. I guess I can't drive somewhere if I have a sudden emergency of some kind.

I can easily sneak out after they are asleep, but it's totally ridiculous to be held prisoner like this. Anger level has gone from nothing to about 9.5 on scale up to 10. I am not a violent person generally - but extremely violent thoughts are swirling. If I was 90 years old, I might understand being held prisoner.

Is anybody else experiencing anything ridiculous like this?

Well, I suppose that being loved in such an inconvenient fashion would be hard...

Personally, I would have called for an Uber and gone off to lunch at Costco. But I’m an asshole.

And I can’t quite convince myself that they’re doing it totally out of love.

Yes, I would be wroth.

Nobody will hold me prisoner. I choose. I have several keys to my own car. My husband has a bunch of spare keys downstairs so he can leave any time. Unless he hides them, we all have access. He is older than I am by exactly 3 months.

I go walk my dogs. I've been to a store this week to get TP and I had a mask. Otherwise, I stay home. I work at home and have for years. They're all off working around the public.

My elderly aunt and uncle go for a walk everyday. They are about 85 and 89. The kids don't visit except face time. You should be able to go for a walk in an area that isn't very populated.

At least you're not 80 with other health issues and a compromised ammune system, and COMPLETELY isolated.

I still have to get my own groceries, and have had no luck finding distilled water for my breathing machine.

I don't mind anything--anything--because my fear and panic is through the roof. I'd rather be bored than frantically getting all my possessions and legal papers in order, and planning my funeral.

I'm Scared to death! I cry a lot.

I would rather be 70 and bored and angry. Want to trade places?

You have people who care, people to keep you company, people to do your shopping for you, a private yard to romp in, and you are able to walk. Suck it up!

Can relate in some ways, It is 4am and I have been awake since 2 after having a dream that I had been left to die gasping for breath in a hospital hallway. Sometimes our unconscious thoughts of what could be are worse than the simple reality that our security rests in staying home.

your groceries, run errands. I would just leave stuff on the porch. Let me know if you are close by.

Anyone on the board who needs someone to get their groceries, etc., I'd be happy to help out. I'm home all day. I work part time and I work when I want, not on a schedule.



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"I can easily sneak out after they are asleep"

Or you can take your power back, keep your dignity, and walk out the f***ing front door while they watch. Go for a walk around the block as you see fit.

What will they do, physically drag you back inside? Then you fight back. If you're so frail that you can't resist, then you probably should stay in.

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Hide the TV remote, along with their scriptures and garments. Trade them for all the car keys, including theirs. Then you hide the keys.

Yes!

Are they trying to physically force you? If not, you are free to take a walk around the block if you practice social distancing. Will they do anything to you if you walk around the block? Are they applying "social pressure"?

It sounds like they are applying some kind of intimidation. That would make me very angry, as well.

They should understand that it's perfectly fine to get exercise outside by walking to the park, etc.

I'm not sure where you live, but I'm in Utah County, and I understand it's perfectly all right to take long walks outside. I may have missed some "order" in the last day or two, but I don't think Utah will ever stop people from going on walks.



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Since they are reluctant (or scared) to have face-to-face discussion, they "laid down the law" in a series of very specific text messages to my cell phone. I am absolutely not allowed to go anywhere no matter what.

They sound extremely serious.

Extreme intimidation coming for when I decide to go for a drive (if I can find keys) or out for a walk.

Why can't people just be nice? They are not - not even one tiny bit.

Do you all live in the same household? Do they have some reason to think that you may be carrying the virus? The texting sounds bizarre to me.

I don't see any reason why you shouldn't go out for a neighborhood walk if you can do so safely. It is no problem to go out walking where I live. If we are about to pass close to someone, then one of the people steps off into the quiet street or onto the grass.

Likewise, if you have your own car, go off for a drive. It will feel good to get out and about. You don't have to get out of the car. The battery needs to be charged occasionally, anyway.

On a bright note, your family gets the seriousness of the virus, and they are concerned about you.

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> Is anybody else experiencing anything ridiculous
> like this?


Yes. My husband.

Well, my local grocery store got in a load of toilet paper that wasn't ripped off the shelves by hoarders this afternoon.

I threatened Hubby that if he wasn't serious about this I would hide his keys. I also told him to keep in mind that he would not only be risking himself but me and that he knows my immune system sucks. He has been very careful. The few times he has had to go out he wears gloves, puts them in the trash and then washes his hands while I do the doorknobs behind him.. If he brings in a box, he puts it in quarantine and washes his hands. When he gets the mail he puts it in a bag for a few days and washes his hands. My job is to structure things to make it as easy as possible for him and to have as much as possible delivered. We are working together.

If you have not been reckless, I don't understand why they are treating you like a child. The text BS is passive aggressive and them hiding the keys is just childish. You could do childish things too like locking her out of the bank account and canceling her cards but I don't see that as productive. Take a walk if you damn well want. That is stupid. Tell them to stop acting like children and to talk WITH you if they have concerns. They will get sloppy about the keys or you can also just start tearing the house apart.

Well I don’t the rules where you are but here we are allowed to go outdoors for walks, etc to exercise. Otherwise I do stay in but exercise is important and I’ll do it for as long as I’m allowed.
No one can literally control you. You could always grow a backbone and tell them to f*** off?

Even prisoners get exercise, for a reason
It's not mentally or physically healthy for an average human to stay inside all the time, so it seems more of a health risk to stay inside than not
The sun naturally disinfects the outside air with UV rays anyway

If you feel like a prisoner, then take it to the next level and act the part:


start tapping on the wall and when asked why explain that you are communicating with the prisoner in the next room.

eat only bread and water, "because that is what prisoners eat"

draw a picture of an anchor or ship on your body and tell them it's a prison tattoo.

exercise a lot and tell them when you are released, you are going to "settle the score" with some people.

tie your bed sheets into knots and leave them coiled up by the window

do the prison guard stare-down when they walk by.

ask if and when you get your free phone call

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I know that none of these are useful or helpful, but my nature is poke fun of or find humor in most aspects of life. If I could help you in anyway with your situation, I would in a heartbeat.

Here is a 15 second video that might apply to your situation. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PieiyaPMoe0

That's made my day! hilarious. Just to add some more ideas:
1) take an old white shirt and paint black stripes down the front.
2) start singing jail house rock, find the old Elvis soundtrack and play it over and over for them all to hear.

We have to keep our sense of humor.

Ask for a rock hammer and a poster of Rita Hayworth.

You are not married, you are in a prison sentance. I"M so sorry.

It doesn't seem as if you can make your own decisions about

your life. you are suffering abuse at the hands of your wife.

Why would you allow it? It won't change unless you change it.



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This is terribly disturbing. Is there anyplace else that you can go? I imagine that you could call the police, describe the situation, and ask them to escort you to this other place. And while they are there, maybe they could make your wife and son give back the car keys.

I know that the police hate domestic squabbles, but you are being held prisoner against your will. On some level, that has to be illegal.

I'm trying to wrap my head around this.

They want you to stay at home during the stay at home period?

I cannot speak for any other human being.
But I cn assure you that put in that position I would consider it life threatening.
I would grab the nearest club and beat the livin crap out of everyone in sight until someone coughed up the keys.
That is totally unconcienable!!
They have no right to do that!!

This is actually elder abuse and false imprisonment. You would be well within your rights to call law enforcement.

You need a good book. Your mind needs to go somewhere that your body can't. Try"The Hundred Year Old Man about a man who escapes from his old folks home on his hundredth birthday just before his party. Just had to get away from people telling him what to do and controlling him. Hmmmmnnnn.

It's about a guy who decides it not too late to start over so it may give you some ideas--that you may need.

Another suggestion: bake and decorate a cake with a file in it!

Haha. Love that. Would like to see the look on the wife and son's faces when they cut into the file. What a way to get your point across!