Posted by:
praydude
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Date: July 07, 2020 07:43PM
I stand all amazed at the stupidity of my TBM family members. My father went from one failed business venture to another even after being warned by other TBM’s he knew. He would simply ignore their advice or any of the warning signs and just “pray about it” and get the confirmation he wanted to proceed into something that cost him in the end.
My older brother went from one failed marriage to another. All with TBM’s of course. I tried to warn him about jumping into marriage with someone he met only a few weeks ago but since I’m the apostate he would dismiss my advice. The mere fact that he didn’t even speak the same language as his new bride didn’t dissuade him from jumping into that situation. He just prayed about it, got the answer he wanted, and that was that. She left him 3 weeks later.
My mom acts like a child. Doesn’t matter that she’s nearly 80 years old. This is not a condition that sometimes happens with old age, like a second childhood...she’s been that way my whole life. She routinely shows that she has no way of improving herself or understanding how to be a better person. Why should she? She has the “true church” supporting her in her choice to be absent at the wheel of her own life. In the end she hasn’t chosen to learn anything and is intellectually stuck in her childhood years a half-century later. She still calls Black people “Negroes” because that is what they taught her in school when she was little. Nevermind that things have changed since the 1950’s. She will not change. I’m pretty sure that most people don’t, or if they do change it is not always for the better. Still I do think my family members could have done a whole lot better for themselves if they weren't duped by the cult and led to believe that they have all the right answers and don’t need to question anything.
I have found that prayers don’t work - rather, they seem to be the biggest source of confirmation bias that runs in my family.