Wow, reading a bit on here and elsewhere. It must be so hard to be the lone doubter or exmormon in a large tbm family. To feel marginalize and even be estranged from your own family and kids, just for having a difference of opinion, or for simply wanting to have a cup of coffee or whatever!

I hope one day the tbms of the world realize the heartache they've caused by not opening up to and trying to understand their loved ones.

My daughter went back to the church at 20 and it hasn't been easy. We get along better now than we used to. I think her husband, a low key guy, helps with her accepting me.

My parents were supportive. I had 3 siblings of 6 leave before I did. I was in my 40s when I decided I didn't believe and I went inactive at age 35 or 36, still believing, but I had to stop them from calling my gay cheating husband as bishop (I was told he would be one of the next bishops by the bishop--he was ex. sec. at the time). I tried going back a few times.

My one sister who still attends sometimes (much less since COVID as her husband now doesn't attend). She doesn't believe.

I have one brother who is disabled mentally and physically. He gets a lot out of going to church. Most of the people are kind to him--MOST, not all. My daughter is the only grandchild/great grandchild who is a mormon. The rest are not. Of course, it was my child who decided to be TBM. My parents weren't "TBM." But they believed. They saw what happened to my life. I was the one they never thought would leave the church and so it was a huge shock, but they accepted it.

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Nope.
It's genuine relief.
can Breathe.

A day in the sun is better than a lifetime in the cave.

Yes, I get that it is exciting and exhilarating.

But also sad when tbms are not able or willing to be understanding, and try to demean or disparage for having a different viewpoint etc. Or just a desire to go in a different direction.