No anxiety about the future grandchild being raised in poverty.

No anxiety about his daughter or son-in-law not having a career or anything to fall back on.

Very strange guy.

Grandparents are supposed to be older and wiser. He’s not wiser. And he’s barely older at 49.

Who we talking about here? I was 53 when I became a grandparent BTW.

Lethbridge Reprobate Wrote:
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> Who we talking about here? I was 53 when I became
> a grandparent BTW.


A TBM in my network, regrettably.

My dad was nearly 50 when I was born. I probably had the most boring parents in the neighborhood (j/k,) but I was raised in a comfortable home in a very safe area, had a lovely wardrobe, dance lessons, music lessons, never wanted for anything, and had my college paid for. There are worse things in life than having parents who have stable lives, some accumulated wisdom, and prosperity.

summer Wrote:
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> My dad was nearly 50 when I was born. I probably
> had the most boring parents in the neighborhood
> (j/k,) but I was raised in a comfortable home in a
> very safe area, had a lovely wardrobe, dance
> lessons, music lessons, never wanted for anything,
> and had my college paid for. There are worse
> things in life than having parents who have stable
> lives, some accumulated wisdom, and prosperity.


My dad was 40 when he had me. He was mature and stable and well into his career.

I’m talking about a 49-year-old grandfather on this thread with a son-in-law and daughter with no education, career and stability having kids.

Big difference.

Yes, I got that. I was just relating it to my own family's experience. My family tends to put off childbearing. There are good points to that (as I stated above,) but also bad points (you don't have as much time to enjoy the grandchildren.)

summer Wrote:
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> My dad was nearly 50 when I was born.

Mine was 48. By the time I came along (number six) he was well past the novelty of fatherhood and had delegated the active parenting to my mother while he got deeper into his career and service in the church (1st counselor > high council > bishop). Most of my childhood interactions with him were about his disappointment I didn't think and act like a middle-aged man.

?

And they're younger than 49.

Nice dog whistle you got there.

Nailed it !

Every bloody post.

The last one was his "rebuttal" of complaints about abuse of that trans kid by suggesting American liberals support female genital mutilation. . .

weird because ~


u. s. americans and canadians have been having babies with no problems for 100's of years ~

Having children young is great in a way because you have more energy at the time. The downside is becoming a grandparent at a younger age. That could very well happen to me. It’s just going to make me feel old, but I can’t see any other negative (for the grandparent). But it’s hardly a big issue.

It’s a vanity thing.

On the other hand, I had a child with no money or career (or partner). It was tough but I have no regrets. I sorted out the money and career as I went along. If there are two parents it should be fine if that’s what they want, except of course we’re talking about a mormon situation.

Your subject line says he’s really anxious, and then the post itself seems to be complaining that he is not anxious. I’m confused.

Lots of people are anxious about lots of things, sometimes for good reason, sometimes not. We generally muddle through. Anyone here ever take a job they wish they hadn’t? Married someone they wish they hadn’t? Been a member of a church that they found regrettable?

I reread the post. I guess you are saying he is a self-centered doofus anxious about something of little consequence, no anxious about stuff that matters.

I’m not sure how you assess someone else’s level of anxiety on multiple issues. Hell, half the time I’m not sure what is making me anxious.