What if she's just being grateful for the insurance payout?

Haha You are wicked! But. I have learned to not take everything at face value. You never know.

Nice story though. Did so many stupid things when I was young. Not anymore, though. Really. I swear. You can believe me this time. For sure.

I don't think she's greatful, not suggested in the report; Also, why- how might that be related to any insurance payout???

That was a swing & a miss, bradley

My bad, I just looked at the photo. You never know.

Of course, forgiveness is all about letting go of the false narratives we keep in our heads. Kind of like kicking Mormonism.

In reality, there is nothing to forgive. Bad things that happen to good people are scripted before they are born. The author of the script is either God, if he/she exists, or you.

There are some people who are born to be bad. They have no real free will, they can only follow the script. The script you wrote for yourself. So holding a grudge is like blaming a waffle iron for burning you in an incident that you rigged up for your own personal growth.

In other words, we humans get attached to absolute nonsense. Breaking free of that nonsense is part of the life journey.

I watch a lot of Dateline, 20/20, and 48 Hours. In fact, I was watching one just before I got up and I got on here to look up names so I could find out the outcome as I'm going to take the dogs for a walk. A lot of them say they forgive them. I'm surprised quite often.

Some days I think I've forgiven those who have hurt me, but then I just remembered I'm not talking to my brother who is like my little boy as I started taking care of him at his birth. My parents had my disabled brother to take care of. I was 11 when he was born and I took over in a lot of ways. He is 57 now and I'm 68. He pushed me too far. Time to apologize or time will fix it all. Siblings are so fun????

I don't go about the forgiveness steps the church taught us. In time, it just loses its power--whatever a person has done.

methinks that sincere Repentance is largely a matter of intent as is Forgiving...
But ChurchCo has made everything so mechanical that they almost entirely miss the points - benefits.



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A lady I knew did the same thing after the murderer of her son was convicted.

I don't think a parent has much choice. It's either that or go mad.

Forgiveness should be a natural process that just comes on its own. Or not. There should be no rules or instructions and no pressure to do it.

That said--it is truly wonderful to be forgiven when you have done something you shouldn't have. And I'd say true forgiveness is dependent on deep understanding which we all really need to give and receive.

I have forgiven plenty of times. Some monumental, others large, and many upon many as small and insignificant.

Forgiveness is more like. "It does not emotionally impact me anymore."

But the forgetting part in some circumstances. Well that is another story. I choose not to rinse and repeat. So do not assume it has been forgotten.

Yeah. No forgetting. Is that even possible without the aid of dementia?

Just nice when you do remember to feel peace that it had all been put to rest.

D&D-

I agree 100% with what you wrote.

My DW did a vicious, deceitful divorce, and afterwards my dear daughter told me: Mom forgives you (no adultery, no abuse...)

There weren't Any changes in former wives decisions or actions accompanying this from dd....

So I wondered: Did former wife pass this onto dd, or, did dd just say this to 'make me feel better'?


Words don't / didn't go all the way this time.



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I have actually twice in my life seen some say they forgive someone as a way to one-up them. Shift the blame falsely.

Boggles the mind. I guess it's using good for evil, and proves you CAN go forward in reverse!

I was thinking about the church leaders who messed up my life while I was walking the dogs. They way I see it. I've lived a better life than they have. If there is a God, I'd rather be me than them. I walk by an lds chapel when I take my dogs for a walk. I'm just so happy I got out of that mess.