I wish I could!

I say this because one of the new General Comatose talks was entirely about urging members to go and harass inactive members-of-record. Resign, or prepare for a barrage of sheeple!

Fake News?

How do You spell

D E S P E R A T I O N?

I have had Mormons threaten to get me ex com ed as they assumed that would be possible punishment for me and to me. I have had Mormons threaten to temple baptize me into their TSCC in response to my displayed disgust for their TSCC and they assumed such disgust had to be externally based. They were so eager to do anything, what ever it would take to interject some added anguish and damage into my life as if TSCC had not already done a world class job of trashing up my life. how ironic that one of Nelson's last declarations was that Mormonism's purpose was supposed simply to make people happy.

I present my three excellent reasons for not resigning:

1) My failure to resign prevents some do-gooder descendant from signing me up for a 'dead-dunking."

2) In case the church turns out to be true, I'm still a member!!

3) As a member of record, I'm in line for my share of the accumulated tithing wealth when some court orders it all to be split up among the members.

You amaze me how you seem to consider things from all angles. I wish now that I hadn't pulled my membership.

It's never too late to make some missionary's "Hey, I'm home!!" talk a real tear-jerker, about how he or she brought you back into the fold.

That would give you the opportunity to have a fuss made about you and to then go inactive again! Both are always fun!!

"in case the church is true"

I keep three of the white shirts I used to wear to church hanging in my closet in case three supermodels stop by for a foursome and need something to wear around the house afterwards.

Re: 2

Being a member won't save you unless you are keeping all the commandments.

Re: 3

Don't hold your breath.



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I sent in a resignation email a few weeks ago. So far, no response. I thought they might at least acknowledge it.

Unless they're so snowed under with tasks that it takes a while to get around to every notification.

I wouldn't mind getting a reply so I know they received and understood my statement.

I didn't care before, especially when I read here that they don't really remove your name from their list. There will always be a record that you joined (as I did).

Now I do care a bit more and wouldn't have minded receiving an OK ma'am type response from them.

Sometime this century.

I had to send them a nudge after a month or so. The letter came the next week.

The only acknowledgment you get is the final letter. It typically takes 6 weeks, though sometimes they are faster. Being in Canada may slow down the response a bit, international mail and all.

Oh yeah, that international thing.

Too, we're in the middle of a postal strike. Slowing things down a wee bit.

I sent my email to the bishop of a local congregation. I thought that was the instruction to follow. Should I be writing to some high mucky-muck in the USA? If so, it would have been welcome if the bishop who received my email (I hope he did) would have informed me of that. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt and assume, for now, that he forwarded my request to the appropriate person/location.

After all this time, it's not the least bit urgent at all but suddenly one day, reading RfM, I wanted to do it when previously I didn't care if I hadn't formally resigned.

That'll be a fun letter to receive.

I would just send to SLC. (omit the bracketed material if you do not have it available)

To: Confidential Records: msr-confrec@ldschurch.org
Subject: Resignation of membership in LDS church

My full name is ______; my date of birth is ____________ . [I was baptized on ___(date). My membership number is ______.]
My residence address is _______ [in the ________ ward/branch].

I hereby resign my membership in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, effective immediately, and request you to remove my name permanently from your membership records. I wish no further contact from representatives of your church except to confirm that my name has been removed from your records. I expect to receive that confirmation within a reasonably short time.

https://www.exmormon.org/remove.htm

Yeah, send direct to SLC. They know what they are doing. The local bishop may never have processed a resignation before, or may just passive-aggressively screw it up.

But I wouldn’t send a second resignation now that one is in the pipeline.

OK. Thanks both.


PS: BoJ's reply is like a math problem to me - both sides of the equation make perfect sense but together not so much. :P


IOW: Now that I've finally done it I want it to happen this instant. So what if I end up waiting for months only to finally conclude that the local guy isn't going to ever respond and then I have to start the wait over with another blurb to SLC.

Even if he doesn't know how to do it you'd think he might at least send a response. Or doesn't that occur in instances like this? Who knows - he may have other demands that are much higher on the scale than this matter (to him anyway).

It's silly of me to want it instantly but at last I want it and so yes, I want it now.

The vast majority of problems/slowdowns have come from the locals. I would wait another week then send to SLC with a note of when you sent it to the local.

I might just have lost my last three marbles, at last.

When I went to copy my first letter in order to speed things up by sending the instruction to SLC rather than merely to the local ward I had attended I discovered that I did indeed originally send it to SLC in the first place.

I think I meant to send it locally, thinking that would be faster somehow (like, they don't have so many records to paw through) but I couldn't even remember which branch or even stake that I belonged to - it's been a while - so I didn't have the name of the local bishop, president, whoever, so what does it matter if I go right to the belly of the beast. I thought it would be more courteous (and maybe more efficient) to go locally but now I just don't care.

I sent it on September 1 so that's longer than a month now, just barely. I should be hearing back from them any day because I'm sure they'll jump right on it.

Except for that pesky postal strike we're still enduring... Maybe they will email it to me, in these modern times.

It's no big deal after all this time but once I decided to finally do it, I want it done. Tout de suite as they say in Quebec.

I guess they could figure that out.

I was distracted and posted the last reply in the wrong line-up.

LOL, I read the other first :)

Yeah. I just figured that out.

My brain is fizzling out - long hard day at work.

Or that's today's excuse. :)

I agree with axeldc.

When my whole family (except for our oldest daughter and her husband) resigned, we received acknowledgement letters about 2 weeks later.

It did say at the end of the letters though, that if we changed our minds, they would be more than willing to have us re-baptized back into the fold.

Thank you both for the replies. I thought maybe I'm impatient expecting a prompt reply but now I will reach out again. I wouldn't mind getting confirmation from them.

I'm glad I resigned no matter what benefits I could get from being a member, which I don't see at all. I don't want to be hassled as my neighbors on the South side since he was put in the bishopric they have hassled me and hassled me. Their son invited me to his mission announcement and I went because I like him. He's a good kid.

I have heard parts of conference the last 2 days because my daughter and SIL are living here. I turn up Dateline loud in my room so I don't hear it.

I have NO DOUBT unless she leaves the church before I die, that her father and I will be dead dunked and, if not by her, my mother's side of the family cousins. And if my aunt outlives me. She is 89. Her husband died a year ago on the 3rd of Oct and he was 93. They skiied the winter before he died and he hiked all year. She will ski this winter and did last year. So she might out live me. If it makes my daughter happy to dead dunk me, so be it. I know it means absolutely nothing.

The missionaries found me and asked if I was so and so. I found out the church has missionaries who call your relatives and find out where you live. Anyways I just played dumb. I acted like I didn’t know what they were. I’m like no I don’t want a Watch Tower and I like celebrating holidays.

>>>I found out the church has missionaries who call your relatives and find out where you live.


...so apparently, my eldest daughter is shielding the church from me by not cooperating!!

But I prefer to think that ghawd has alerted his faithful servants that there are tasks more important than trying to re-activate a Lamanite who failed to turn White. But I am considered delightsome. (I write my own reviews.)

It really does not matter. Mormon, Evangelical, JW, etc. They all use the same tactics. We are better and you will suffer terribly if you do not do what we tell you to do.

The only thing is that they are the ones suffering. Not those of us who have determined our own destiny. They just assume they are in a better place simply because they are card carrying.

Watched a video of people in the forest chanting and singing praise to God while waiting for the rapture to take them up. I found a great deal of humor watching. Another of a lady saying they were ready and refusing to use the bathroom, so they would be outside and ready to be taken up. Then made some snide comment about those of us left behind.

Overall nothing matters. Religion only provides community and nothing else. You never see God appearing and stopping wars and the killing of innocent people. When was the last time you saw people floating up to heaven. When was the last time anyone saw waves of angels administering to starving children. The list could go on.

Thus, it does not matter if you ever belonged to a religious group or if you are still listed as a member. It had no value then and it has no value now.

It is unfortunate that many think we require religion to show some kind of humanity.

Great answer. Resigning for something that doesn't exist is nonsense.

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> Great answer. Resigning for something that doesn't
> exist is nonsense.

Yes, I see that side of it too. But also it's likely very satisfying to the exmo - especially perhaps to BICs who literally had no choice about being part of Mormonism until they were of age and could finally make their own decisions about it.

Too, many exmos, including converts, view it as one way to make their own choice/s known, decisively.

Some people feel the case is closed when they choose to walk away. That's how I felt - or would have if I had even known about formally resigning, which I did not. Others wish to specifically, definitively, make a clear statement that they are choosing to reject the CoJCoLDS. Ever since I left, I haven't felt like bothering to make it formal. Now I do. So I am endeavouring to do so. It's a bit of a pain but I'll be happy to know that I let them know with clarity that I chose to withdraw from their religion and cared enough about that decision to want to make it a formal notification and expectation of their compliance - at least by acknowledging my instruction, if not by them throwing my records onto the huge bonfire of the masses of records of ex-members they must have due to the deluge of leave-takers.



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Refusing to resign from something that doesn’t exist makes more sense?

"Refusal" is an active verb, requiring a choice. But for many RfMers, not resigning is the result of apathy.

Requiring volition, as you implicitly do, is sort of like saying that atheism is a religion.

I had a thrill of rebellion when I resigned in 2011 (in Utah). I learned how to do it easily with one email right here on this very board. I left the state a free entity and have had no contact since.

I don't need to resign, they think I'm dead.

I just sent a reminder to the email address Sus posted above as it's been over two months now.

Maybe they're so snowed under with resignation requests that it's a long wait to receive a response. :)

Still, I'd like acknowledgement that they have rec'd my email and have carried out whatever procedure they use to register my request.

I know it doesn't mean anything, they still keep your records etc, but I'd like confirmation from them, at least whatever form that takes with them.

>I know it doesn't mean anything, they still keep your records etc

Actually it does mean something. It means that you have officially terminated your membership. That's not nothing.

True, it doesn't mean that they will delete the fact that you were once a member. There's a record kept of practically everything you have ever done in life. When I moved back to Utah in 2010 and got a new Rocky Mountain Power account, they still had the record of my previous address and phone number from the 1970s, and the serial number of my electric meter from those days.

Old records never die, except maybe in Europe.

I don't think resignation is right for everyone especially TBMs who still buy into it.

On the bright side only 20 years or so before they assume I am dead and my name really comes off the list.

...all in favor please signify by raising the right arm to the square...

Any opposed?

No? Then the ayes have it.



Hang in there, Kentish!

Doesn't formally resigning acknowledge that the church has some authority? That the emperor at least has a fig leaf?

Church authority comes from usurper, storyteller, and grifter Joseph Smith. The church is a social club that pretends to be a religion. It works only if you too are a pretender.

Are you there? Say a prayer for the pretender.

> Doesn't formally resigning acknowledge that the
> church has some authority? That the emperor at
> least has a fig leaf?

That's the point certainly for me and apparently for some other non-resigners as well. When Dorothy discovered the man behind the curtain, did she have any residual obligation to obey his rules? Was she bound to leave through the door that he had marked "exit?"

When my last mission companion determined that the church--or at least our mission--had zero to do with Christ and accordingly went home early, did she have a duty to go through the standard exit interview with our raging little narcissist of an MP?

I say no. Just send the little hearse plummeting off the cliff, pick up the banjo, and walk away.