Posted by:
Mnemonic
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Date: November 02, 2010 09:32PM
I have a female friend that I have been friends with for over 30 years. She was the first girl I kissed and even though we broke up we remained friends all through high school. She got married just a few months after I did and lived in an apartment just a few blocks away from the apartment my wife and I lived in after we got married. We had dinner with her and her husband several times before they moved to another town. Her kids are about the same age as my kids and now they live a few miles away from where I live now. I have stayed in touch with her over the years. I usually talk to her around the time of my birthday and her birthday and Christmas time. I try to take her out to lunch for her birthday each year. I have also been over to her house numerous times to fix their computer and help them with computer problems. Over the years, I've talked to her about my feelings about the church and told her when we left the church (7 years ago). I've tried to be careful to make sure her husband didn't feel I was trespassing on his relationship with his wife.
She is an accomplished dutch oven chef. She can cook pretty much anything in a dutch oven and invited my family over to her house for dinner this last summer. We got there about 20-25 minutes late but I called her over an hour before we were supposed to arrive and let her know we were going to be a little late and she said it wasn't a problem.
When it came time for the blessing on the food her husband asked ME to give the blessing. She immediately corrected him and told him "He's not mormon any more." He responded with "He still knows how to pray, doesn't he?" I went ahead and gave a half hearted blessing on the food feeling quite uncomfortable as I did. I have never been comfortable praying in public or around other people. If the same thing happened to me now, I would tell him to find someone else to give the blessing.
We started getting our food and his cell phone rang. It was someone from the ward asking for a ride. He excused himself and he and his son left. They didn't return until just before we left.
I've tried to put the whole incident behind me but for some reason, I really feel hurt by it. I feel like he did it on purpose to make me feel uncomfortable.
What are your thoughts? Am I making more out of this than I should?