Posted by:
Virg
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Date: November 08, 2010 10:00AM
I haven't posted much on here... but I figured I'd share this story. It just happened this past week and I guess you could say I'm venting for my dad. Here's the back story:
I live in NJ in the Morristown area. It has a a pretty strong English speaking ward but the spanish speaking branch never really took off. A few years back they realized that after ignoring the spanish branch, it was a hot mess. The youth and primary programs were non existant when I was growing up. We taught the class with our convert teachers in YW's (there were 3 YW the entire time I was in hs)... and eventually we started attending Sunday School and YW/YM in the english ward, with whom we shared the building with. Instead of 3 hours, I'd spend 5 hours at church. We'd switch every year- one year they'd have services first and the spanish branch second, then we'd be have services first and then they would. That sucked- can you imagine being in church 6 hours?
When I was a freshman in college, I ended up taking the spring (2003) semester off b/c my mom had a stroke over winterbreak. Seeing that as an extra pair of hands at church, I was called to the primary. The primary president was a recent convert with a small child, so that meant I did the bulk of the work for the next year and a half. Finally the Stake decided that it just wasn't working out since the kids were taught in English but had to do the primary presentation in spanish (none of the kids wanted to do anything in spanish). English and Spanish would have services at the same time, English in the chapel, spanish in the relife society room. Then we'd combine the Sunday school for the youth, Primary, and YW/YM services. With that, now anyone that spoke spanish in the English ward was fair game to help out in the Spanish branch.
Brother "V" from the English ward was called to be the branch president. He's from Spain and his wife is from Urugay. My family and I have known them for a while since the bishops brother in law and wife attended services in the branch. His 1st and 2nd counselors were 2 younger guys mid 30's that served missions in spanish. Their poor wives looked like deer in headlights but attended the spanish services no less... but not the bishop's wife, Sister V. Her excuse was, "I'll help in any way the branch needs me, but I belong to the English ward, not the spanish branch." Arogant much?
Fast forward to the spring of 2006. I decided church was just not my thing anymore. Didn't have that, "I know the church is false," type of hunch. One Saturday night, I stayed at my bf's and just didn't get home until Sunday after church was over... which I did again the week after that and again after that. It's 2010 and I haven't been to a church service in about 4 years. Though I do help out the sister missionaries when they go visit church memebers in town (single men) from time to time, they're very aware that I won't go knocking with them door to door or go to church. It wasn't until this summer that I read Under the Banner of Heaven, Escape, and Triumph, that I had that moment of, "this church is just bogus."
Anyway, my parents have been going on and off. My mom's always wanted to go... my dad not so much. My mom's health has been failing the past 2 years and she's been going back and forth between a walker and wheelchair. Though I don't go to church or believe, I urge my dad to just go with my mom to keep her happy and just to get her out of the house to breathe. My mom loves going and socializing and just being out and about. There's been a few times she's gone on her own but mostly she stays home and says, "your father didn't want to go, so I stayed home to keep him company and help him out with chores." The missionaries and 3 other sister take turns and stop by around lunch time to help my mom out, do her hair, read, watch movies, and exercise- they've been incredilby helpful. However, one of the sisters that's been making the rounds is Sister V, the bishops wife.
Well the past few times Sister V has come by, shes's gone into de-clutter mode (my dad's a pack rat). Of course, my dad gets pissed b/c his knick knacks get thrown into a plastic tub (I would have thrown them out). Last time Sister V was over,Thursday, she really organized and cleaned. That night my dad noticed the geneology book his sister had made him was missing. He looked and looked and couldn't find it. He called sister V and got no answer. He called again Friday and Saturday, he finally spoke to her. She took it by,"accident." Not only did she take it, she left in a box on her back deck Thursday night. She forgot she left the box there. It rained all of Thursday and Friday morning. Oops. I wasn't home, but my parents told me that the bishop came by and dropped it off and apologized profusely for his wife's actions. She didn't even have the balls to face my dad, her husband had to do the dirty work. My dad's a gentle man, who's really happy go lucky, so when I got home last night and saw him sitting at the kitchen table quietly eating yogurt in the dark I knew something was wrong. The cover was soaked and so were a few pages that weren't in sleeves as well as 3 pictures. Though my dad probably doesn't believe some of the church stuff, he enjoyed showing off that geneology book him and his sister worked on before she passed away about 8 years ago. Anytime there was a geneology class, my dad was the go-to guy... he'd proudly explain every detail about it and how to organize your information.
I believe this may have broken my dad beyond repair and he won't be going back to church any time soon.