Date: September 24, 2010 03:23AM
Once a person questioning Mormonism - or any other 'spiritual' belief system, for that matter - realizes that no one is coming to the rescue and that no 'magical' deity (i.e., creation of human imagination) provides strength to endure and cope, then one is left with a stark realization: Find a way of adapting and surviving or perish (emotionally, psychologically, and in some extreme cases such as people who have fled the FLDS cult, for example, physically).
One of the many dysfunctional aspects of Morg 'programming' is systematically indoctrinating and conditioning people to believe that they don't have the inner, human strength to endure the 'curve balls' that Life throws at them (sooner or later), including ones that hurt immensely and can result in permanent, unwanted changes (e.g., becoming disabled).
In the Mormon belief system, 'God' gives people 'trials and tribulations' to either chastise or punish them, or 'try' their 'faith'. The corollary belief is that one needs to 'lean on the Lord for strength', which is disempowering. LDS 'solutions' include the standard package: praying, getting blessings, reading scriptures, fasting, attending the temple, etc. They're not solutions, really, just ways of avoiding dealing with difficult realities.
No matter what people believe, there is no 'Lord' providing strength, only a belief - an idea - a thought - that there is such a 'being' or 'force'. The whole thing is psychological. An individual confronted with a very difficult situation COULD think: "What I'm going through is hard, but I can make it! I believe in myself. I have the inner strength to get past this! Despite the pain, I can and will do everything possible to improve the quality of my life." Notice there's no pleading with a 'magical' sky-deity to provide 'blessings', 'promptings of the Holy Ghost', etc.
Mormons HUGELY need to let go of the disempowering belief that they don't have what it takes to deal with 'trials and tribulations', and start believing that they do. Instead of pleading with the LDS deity-idea, 'Heavenly Father', they need to start exercising their brain and using their imagination to creatively solve problems and overcome challenges. They need to develop an inner reservoir of resilience that has deeper and stronger roots in their being/'soul' than their emotions. So much about Mormonism is driven by emotion, which is a large part of why its 'foundation' shifts like sand in the wind.
As we take responsibility for all aspects of our lives, we find that we don't need or seek 'spiritual' buttressing. Through experience, we learn just how powerful we - humans - truly are.