Posted by:
almostout
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Date: November 17, 2010 10:55AM
As a new member, some background. I am a BIC member but do not agree with almost every aspect of the "administration" of the church. I do find value in the ministering part of service and as a resident in a highly concentrated area of members, find value in the social interaction without feeling much pressure to buy in to all the 'crap' that is spewed forth as "Thou shalt do or do not".
In any event, I recently was called into a disciplinary council. I had confessed something to the Bishop and things were going pretty well in the council without me feeling less of a human being and actually feeling pretty good about not feeling overly shameful of what had happened. As some of you are aware in the CHI, it states the intent of a disciplinary council is to:
1. Save the soul of the transgressor
2. Protect the Innocent
3. Safeguard the good name of the Church
Anyway, after I was dismissed from the interview proceedings, they spent almost two hours deliberating what to do with me. My impressions during the whole meeting was only probation would be prescribed. After the two hour thumb twiddling in the church corridors, they brought me in and said they had decided on disfellowship.
I spoke with the Bishop in private afterwards and he was very candid in talking about the process. He too had felt initially that probation was going to be the option, but the more he and the others talked they moved towards disfellowship to satisfy objective number 2 and make sure my kids knew the gravity of my actions. Not a single time had any questions been raised about my kids in any conversation I had with the Bishop or the disciplinary council. I told the Bishop I was going to appeal the decision and he was supportive.
I just met with the Stake President last night to discuss my appeal. He has three options:
1. Let the Decision stand
2. Reduce the discipline
3. Ask the disciplinary council to re-hear the matter
He is contemplating what to do and is actually a good personal friend of mine. I guess this is my way of testing to see if they really want me to participate at all and seeing how much real 'ministering/forgiveness/mercy' is actually shown by church administrative officials. My personal feeling is too much is being dictated by CHI to really let people get in touch with their human emotions. Anyone gone through an appeals process and if so how did it go?