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Date: October 01, 2010 09:13AM
She is a really nice older lady who has appointed herself to mail us every month. She thinks we got offended and took a break, and she is only one of several to say that. So I have been thinking about what to say (if anything) and came up with this:
[Dear ---] We thank you for the thoughtful cards and messages, and the yummy recipes that you send to us each month.
We are also thankful to you for your willingness to reach out to us. Nobody else has made any effort, except [Bishop].
It has come again to our attention that we are said to have been offended and are taking a break from church. We heard this when we saw you at the funeral, and have been told this by other people recently as well.
In truth, we have no hard feeling toward any member of the [--] Ward, the [--] Stake or any other member of the church. We have never been suffiently offended by any member of the church to cause us to leave or go inactive. Indeed, our salvation was too important to let any mistakes of others bother us.
We have been members of the church for many years. And as longtime members we recognize that there is a perception that the only reason people leave is due to offense, sin, weakness, indifference and unwillingness to keep the commandments.
We recognize that these perceptions are used to protect the flock and to keep them from communicating with those who lose their testimonies, for fear that knowledge may spread.
We have watched people leave the church and have heard the subsequent rumours that get circulated as accusations are whispered in the hallways. We saw this happen to:
[15 names], to name a few that have left the church over the years from our ward alone. These are just the folks that we know personally.
We know the reasons that these 15 people left the church. Ten of those left for exactly the same reasons we did, yet each of them were rumoured to have been offended or sinned.
We did not leave the church because we were offended, or some sort of sin. But if you really do want to know, we would be happy to sit down with you and discuss this in a frank and honest manner using only verifiable church published evidence.
In the meantime, you could ask the Bishop why he told the Ward Council not to engage us in conversation, and ask why if we got offended has no one but you ever contacted us, and what we could possibly know that would keep them away.
Again, we thank you for your kindness and the yummy recipes, and yes we have tried most of them for dinner.
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Who knows, maybe she'll pass it around...