Not trying to be morbid or anything, but sometimes I wonder what people will say about me at my funeral. I hope my kids say that I was a good mom, that I loved them and encouraged them to think for themselves, to get a good education, and that I was a lot of fun. I hope my friends say that I was a good and loyal friend who made them laugh. Hopefully I'll have some grandkids who will say I was the best Grandma ever, the way I did for my own grandmother.

It comforts me to know that I won't have on temple garb, that I won't have somebody with a glove explaining how the glove is my body and their hand is my spirit and I won't have anybody preaching the gospel while not letting my family and friends remember me in eulogy.

Was he my biological father? Who is to say? The guy got around.

and sing all the verses of "I am a child of God."

My hard-working sleep-deprived divorced non-Mormon friends and relatives will be already dead, but maybe some of the pampered, nipped-and-tucked-and tanned Mormon SAHM's will speak about how much they enjoyed shunning me. They can spread more gossip about how I was after their paunchy, boring arrogant husbands, bla-bla.

My kids won't even want a funeral. Maybe they'll have a party, like a single friend of mine had. She left money for all her friends to have a fabulous catered luncheon, and we were all invited to offer stories and tidbits about her life. Too bad she wasn't there.

My ex-Mormon aunt had a gravesite service, but with no praying by her Mormon kids, and no "consecrating the gravesite" either--thought her kids came back and did that later. She wanted a bagpiper, playing her favorite Scottish songs.

Maybe all us ex-Mormons should plan our funerals now, and maybe write the speeches, too, and arrange to have the funeral someplace other than in a Mormon church--especially if we have Mormon spouses and children. Do it now, and put it in with your will!

funerals, memorial services, give our body to science, Revocable Wills/Trusts, burial sites, head stones, cremation etc. We have the trust/wills done, but now we have to make decisions about the rest of it. Or we can leave it to our kids with the trust/wills.I'm considering giving my body to science.


Those that have had a loved one die recently have told me that it helped that one of the adult "kids" wrote the eulogy and bio a little bit ahead of time. They collected info and wrote a history and had the obit and a photo ready for the paper.

I guess it really doesn't matter what is said, as I won't be there to hear it, so I'll just do my best ....now! :-)
My concern is that things go smoothly for those that are still living.